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The stars of the hit TV show Duck Dynasty are committed to upholding five core values both on and off the screen: faith, family, fellowship, forgiveness, and freedom.
The Duck Commander® Faith and Family Bible features new stories and testimonials by Phil, the Robertson family patriarch, and his son Al, a pastor with more than 22 years of experience. Together they offer fresh wisdom on biblical values and how everyday people can apply them to their lives.
Powered by relentless dedication to sharing the gospel and celebrating Christ’s kingdom, the Robertson family has become influential to contemporary evangelism and discipleship. The Duck Commander® Faith and Family Bible unleashes the power of their practical insight into critical faith issues, founded on God’s Word.
Features include:
  • Full text of the New King James Version Bible
  • A personal welcome note from Phil and Al Robertson
  • 125 articles on the top 24 most-searched topics on BibleGateway
  • Life application and scripture references supplement each article
  • 30 days of life-changing testimonials
  • Topical index and reading plans

Editor's Thoughts:

I give this Bible five stars. I completely love the layout of it. The life applications and personal notes my the Robertson's. They share how they came to know Jesus, and how to apply scripture through their "Set Your Sights" personal notes that are broken down into categories; faith, family, fellowship, forgiveness, and freedom

I would recommend this Bible to new Christians and seasoned Christians as well because it also provides scripture references for topical subjects such as Marriage, Brokenness, Parenting, and more.

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Carmen Miller is happily married mother of 5 and wife to Jarrad. As Founder of Whole Magazine, and Co-Founder of God Over Porn; Carmen's heart's passion is to see broken women made whole through the power of Jesus Christ.

I'm sure many of you are familiar with the quote, "If God brings you to it, He'll bring you through it." And yes, it does sound really good and will preach quite well.  

However, when God brings me to "it", even with knowing He'll bring me through, I don't want to go through the "it". I want to immediately be through with the "it". 

Nobody likes to go through the "its" of life. Because when you are right there in the midst of the "it", the fire and flames are real. The heat is hot and the smoke seems to overtake you. 

What do you do when you are brought to an "it"- when you're facing a trial or are in the midst of the test?  Those are the very moments in which you have to roll up your sleeves and make a decision like the Psalmist David did.

In Psalm 42:5, we read how David had a little talk with himself. 

"Why are you cast down, O my soul? And why are you disquieted within me? Hope in God, for I shall yet praise Him For the help of His countenance," (Psalms 42:5 NKJV).

In the midst of the test and the trial, you have a decision to make. That's when you have to make up in your mind that, yet will I praise Him.  

You must choose to offer unto God a sacrifice of praise, even when you don't feel like praising and all you really want to do is cry and complain.  

It's easy in those moments of hardship to go and throw yourself across your bed, grab your pillow and cry. However, when you decide to praise instead of pout, that brings glory and honor to God. It exalts Him over the situation. 

"But giving thanks is a sacrifice that truly honors me. If you keep to my path, I will reveal to you the salvation of God,” (Psalm 50:23, NLT). 

When you can offer a sacrifice of praise and thanksgiving in the midst of your "it", God is glorified. In doing so, you are letting Him know, that you know, that He is still God and that He is bigger than what you're facing. 

Your praise is declaring to God that you believe that He is and that you believe His word.

When you praise Him in the difficult moments, you're letting Him know that your trust is in Him and in those moments that you simply can't handle, you know He's already handled it. 

When you choose to exalt God over your situation, you are also making room for Him. You're making room for the weight of His glory to fall in your situation [click-to-tweet]. If you want to see and experience the glory of God, praise Him.

It happened for Paul and Silas (see Acts 16:25-34). They were beaten and imprisoned for casting a demon out of a slave girl who told fortunes for her master and made profits for them. However, when her masters saw that their hope of profit was gone, they seized Paul and Silas and dragged them into the marketplace to the authorities. They were then placed in prison. 

At midnight, in a dark prison cell, they began to sing and pray. The surrounding prisoners heard their hearts of praise. Suddenly, there was a great earthquake and the very foundation of the prison was shaken. All of the doors were opened and everyone's chains were loosed.  

Their praise in the prison was a sacrifice. When they offered unto God a sacrifice of praise, He was glorified. As God was glorified and enlarged in that moment, His glory filled the prison. He came and dwelt with them.

Why? Because He inhabits the praises of his people. 

"But thou art holy, O thou that inhabitest the praises of Israel," (Psalms 22:3 KJV).

He comes and dwells as His people praise Him. He is enthroned in the praises of His people. 

As Paul and Silas praised Him in the dark prison, with their feet bound in chains, God came and filled that place with His presence. His glory. 

Ladies, when God is glorified from the inner-depth our hearts, all that He is enters into our situation. 

When the earthquake hit the prison that Paul and Silas were in, it was simply God's way of making His presence known. Their situation was shaken to the very core by the presence of God when they offered unto Him a sacrifice of praise. 

You may be in a difficult situation right now, but know that God wants to shake the very foundation of it. The thing that the enemy says will never be over, but be comforted by the truth that God wants to shake it. However, the shaking and the uprooting will come when you praise Him consistently and constantly. 

Your praise will shake and shape your circumstance. Exalt Him and watch Him show you His salvation. 

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Pastor Pamela Bell is a passionate, lover of God, who desires to see God's people walk in the knowledge of who they are in Christ. She resides in Mobile, AL and serves as an Elder at her church, Gulf Coast Christian Center. Pastor Pamela enjoys reading, spending time with friends and all things chocolate.

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With this NIV Once-A-Day Bible for Leaders you can read through the Bible in a year. Or at your own pace.Now you can practice the spiritual discipline of daily Bible reading with a special focus on leadership. Plus, you can read at your own pace. Want a reading plan that will take you through the Bible in a year? You got it–with check boxes and all. Don’t want the guilt of falling behind? You won’t---each daily reading is not dated but numbered, allowing you the flexibility you need as you strive to engage God’s Word every day.
The NIV Once-A-Day Bible for Leaders organizes the clear, accessible New International Version Bible into 365 daily readings. Each day’s reading includes a portion of Scripture from the Old Testament, the New Testament, and a Psalm or a Proverb. And to help you develop your leadership skills with a biblical focus, each daily reading includes a leadership insight from both past and present outstanding leaders. Featured leaders include Bill Hybels, Wayne Cordeiro, Erwin McManus, Charles Stanley, Max Lucado, Ann Voskamp, Chuck Swindoll, and many more.

Editor's Thoughts:

I was not sure about this Bible, because I am not a fan of the NIV version, but I will rate this Bible 4 out of 5 stars. I really enjoyed the Leadership insights. I wanted to share a couple of my favorite leadership 'Reflection" excerpts they gave:

Day 221: "Nehemiah raised the bar for me when it comes to celebration. He reminded me that all work and no play makes for dull people. . .All service and no celebration is a formula for wearing people down and draining their joy. We leaders must not let that happen. We need to be intentional in planning the victory parties as we are at setting and achieving the organizational goals." - Bill Hybels

Day 260: "The confident leader embodies good energy, a sense of destiny, and a restless independence of mind. Arrogance is not confidence; confidence is not arrogance. . ." - Leonard I. Sweet

If you are looking for a good leadership Bible coupled with a great reading plan then this Bible would be a great choice. Just be sure to have a notebook as well because it is rather small which makes hardly any room for taking notes in the margins (something I like to do). 

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Carmen Miller is happily married mother of 5 and wife to Jarrad. As Founder of Whole Magazine, and Co-Founder of God Over Porn; Carmen's heart's passion is to see broken women made whole through the power of Jesus Christ.

“Faith is taking the first step even when you can’t see the whole staircase.”  

It’s not always easy to take the next step of faith when you can’t see exactly where that next step leads. Today, I want to encourage you to take God’s hand and let Him lead you.

The Lord had put a desire on my heart to go into the medical field. I had been looking into different medical jobs for months, and was going to start trying to get into nursing school when I graduated in May of 2015 with my bachelor’s in Graphic Design. A lot of factors went into a major decision that I made last week. Last week, I withdrew from college. That might sound crazy, especially since I was so close to finishing. You see, several weeks before that decision, I received a scholarship for military spouses that would completely pay for an online medical assisting program that is also a self-paced program. I start the classes this week, and I can’t tell you how excited I am. I’m not sure yet if the Lord will have me fall in love with being a medical assistant or if He will lead me to continue on to nursing school to achieve my ultimate goal of being a NICU (Neonatal Intensive Care Unit) nurse. Right now, I’m taking things one step at a time. It has been hard for me, though, because I like knowing what’s going to happen next. I like to know what’s coming, as well as what my next move will be. However, God doesn't always work like that. He wants us to trust Him and His plan for our lives. 

Satan will try to discourage you when you take a step of faith towards the plan God has for you. All week he’s been whispering to me that I’m a failure for not finishing my undergrad. He will take my excitement about this new opportunity and crush it. He has tried to discourage me about the possible lack of job opportunities, or that fact that I might be looked down upon in the medical field because I would only be “just” a medical assistant.

I’ve had to keep reminding myself that God has brought me this far, and He will not let me down now. I will not let go of God’s hand, and He will not let go of my hand. 

“You may not always understand why God allows certain things to happen, but you can be certain that God is not making any mistakes.”

I don’t know what your fears about the future may be, or if you’re a bit nervous because you don’t really understand where God is leading you. Or maybe, you never thought your life would turn out the way it has. 

Claim these beautiful verses from Isaiah 54:

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the LORD.  For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts,” (Isaiah 54:8-9).

God never forces anyone to do anything. He does not force anyone to accept Him as Savior, but we know He desires for all humans to do so. He does not force His children to do anything, but His desire is for all of us to do. The beautiful thing is that His plan for each of us is different. No two plans are alike

Ladies, I can guarantee that God will guide you through each step of His incredible plan for you. So, take His hand and trust Him. 

“A woman who walks with God will always reach her destination.” 

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Leah Hill is an Army wife and Graphic Designer. Her desire is to share with others what the Lord has been teaching her, whether through writing or building relationships. Leah thoroughly enjoys writing letters, knitting, staying active, and cherishing every moment with her wonderful husband.

Addiction at its core is trying to find happiness and fulfillment outside of God.  
It’s a false sense of security in things that will not last.  It’s a band-aid to an infected wound.  It’s a manifestation of a hurt, not a cure.

When many of us think of addictions, we usually conjure up thoughts of drug addicts on sidewalks or alcoholics at the corner bar. We rarely think of an epidemic of an addiction to people.  Other names for an addiction to people are people pleaser, co-dependent, and approval addicts.  

No one wants to admit they are addicted to people as much as an alcoholic doesn’t want to admit he has a severe drinking problem.  Why? Because we feel it stigmatizes how we will be seen and perceived by others.  We feel it makes us look like we are weak and needy and hence, we will be rejected.  Also, it rips off the comfort of the band-aid we have put on it and forces us to deal with the infection underneath; the truth.  

Today, I want to help those who may be struggling with this to identify the signs and help with suggestions to overcome the addiction.

What are some signs/symptoms? 

Swinging/shifting moods according to another person’s moods.  Loss of emotional freedom, as everything a person does or doesn’t do affects your feelings.  Yes, granted when you are close to someone their feelings may affect you to some degree, but they should not dictate or control you and your moods.

Relying on others for approval, validation or constant reassurance.


Inability to function or think straight or rationally.  

Obsessive thoughts  

Fear and anxiety.  A constant fear that you will lose a person or be rejected by them.  

"'Fear' in the biblical sense…includes being afraid of someone, but it extends to holding someone in awe, being controlled or mastered by people, worshipping other people, putting your trust in people, or needing people.”
-Edward T. Welch

The affects and harm of being addicted to people:

They become a false idol, functional saviors or counterfeit Gods.  According to Tim Keller’s book, “Counterfeit Gods,” an idol and/or functional savior is,

“Anything more important than you and God, anything that absorbs your heart and imagination more than God, anything you seek to give you what only God can give.  A counterfeit god is anything so central and essential to your life that, should you lose it, your life would feel hardly worth living. An idol has such a controlling position in your heart that you can spend the most of your passion and energy, your emotional and financial resources, on it without a second thought.  If anything becomes more fundamental than God to your happiness, meaning in life, and identity, then it is an idol.”

So, what is the fix or cure?

Stepping out of denial and admitting that you have an addiction to people.

Surrendering to God

Finding an accountability partner to help you stay accountable for your thoughts and behavior.  They are able to see patterns often times before you can and also can pray for you.  

A willingness to change.  Even when you don’t know how to change, power comes from God through surrender.

Recognize your triggers and make a plan on how you will deal with them before they happen.  

How will you plan to react when______? 
When I am beginning to feel______, I will_____?

Disengage.  Sometimes you may need to disengage from a relationship completely or for an amount of time.  Disengaging when you feel a trigger setting in can help you to take the time to be alone, pray and think clearly.  

Make sure you are continuing to do your own things (hobbies, interests and regular activities).  When you stop doing these things it should be a red flag to you.

Pursue positive distractions.  Pray, spend daily time with God, try something new and get out with friends or even by yourself. When I say find positive distractions, I am not implying that you try to avoid your feelings, but that you actually re-focus your attention.

Some verses to meditate on:

“But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me,” (2 Corinthians 12:9).

“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me, (Philippians 4:13).

“For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out,” (Romans 7:18).

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Leilani is a single mom to a beautiful 4 year old little girl. She is in love with the Creator of the stars. Her mission is simple yet so big, to encourage and bring Jesus to all in need. To bring hope by loving people, writing, photography, music, poetry/spoken word and meeting people right where they are. Gods Grace is her air.

Those with intelligence will survive but those with imagination will thrive
. My crime as a young adult was to exaggerate the importance and righteousness of being correct and of possessing all the answers. I had accomplished the great task of distinguishing the light from the dark, the black from the white. In my great, knowing mind I had erased all shading, there was no gray matter; I was wise beyond my years and the only direction I could possibly go was up.

However, the more I learned the less I knew. The answers I had previously relied on were suddenly unsatisfactory. They didn’t explain the events of my life, the course it was taking, or offer any comforting insights. The gray matter of truth enveloped me and I couldn’t tell up from down. I began to question the church, to question myself, and to question God. Trust was nowhere to be found, I locked my doubt away inside me and it began to straggle me. I choked on everything I had hidden away and so my doubt became a scorching fire destroying what I thought was my life-saving beliefs.  My faith was once a grand, fortified city, magnificent and majestic; it was the stronghold of my life and of my happiness. Certainty reigned on the bedrock of facts and figures, it commanded truth and righteousness. My doubt was a foreign invader who raped, pillaged, and destroyed. Questions pounded like war drums through my head and cynicism dismantled the throne of certainty, throwing my heart to anarchy and chaos. The voices I once trusted and respected turned into monstrous lies before my very eyes. Jeremiah’s words echoed in my mind, “But I was like a gentle lamb led to slaughter,” (Jeremiah 11:19a).

My own faith experience serves as a reflection of Jeremiah’s own story. He began to question not only the revered institutions of his time but that of his own calling and purpose. He was opposed by even his own family and was ostracized by his community because of his questioning. However, Jeremiah still acknowledged God’s presence. Even when Jeremiah unleashed his anger towards God he knew that God had been right all along. Jeremiah’s doubts and questions served as an introduction to a deep and intimate conversation with God. Jeremiah was the child on God’s knee asking, “Why?” and “How come?” God answered Jeremiah just as God will answer you and just as He answered me. God’s voice is one of reassurance, “For I am with you to save you and to deliver you” (Jeremiah 15:20). Jeremiah’s faith grew deeper and stronger by withstanding the fires of his own doubt. He bought more time with God and grew to know more of who God was for himself.

Like Jeremiah, the fires of my doubt had wiped away the simple, childish religion of my youth. It had completely emptied me out so God could pour His truth, love, and Spirit into me. I have come to realize that I never really doubted God; just what I thought I knew about God. In the end, this questioning and re-evaluation enriched and refined my faith. My faith journey has become less of a war and more of an adventure where I am invited to discover the wondrous mysteries of our Lord and Savior. Knowledge and certainty is overrated, it steals the transforming power of faith and surrender. 

I once thought that conviction and certainty were signs of strength and that doubt was a sign of weakness. However, this doubt was only an indication of a child-like curiosity, full of wonder and awe for something I don’t completely understand. It was an invitation for God to have a conversation with me, to talk to me. I wanted God to tell me a story, to let me wander and explore.

Once the raging fires had died down, I felt the healing, cleansing power of my Savior. These “fires” which we experience in our spiritual walk force us to come to terms with who we really are, our capabilities, and the powers we have received through Christ. In the space between doubt and faith there is room for action. Faith is fire retardant; it is resilient and has the uncanny ability to adapt to our questions and doubts. God uses these experiences to pry the idols of religion and knowledge from our grip and teach us something new. I have experience a rebirth, a baptism by fire. The magnificent city that once stood for my faith may now be in ruins, but I walk on a path paved with stones of love, mercy, grace, and humility. I hope, because it’s okay to be wrong, to not have it all figured out. Because of this I can declare along with Lamentations that, “You have taken up my cause, O Lord, you have redeemed my life,” (Lamentations 3:58). 

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Sarah Dannemiller is a crazy-confused post-grad from central Indiana who is a curious, fun-loving individual doing her best to leave a legacy of love and laughter. She might have the tendency to obsess over words, corny jokes, and delicious cookie-dough ice cream! But she has a passion for justice, believes in this world, and the good work that God is doing in it.

We all know that a good's night sleep is essential for our health. It's the time when our bodies restore and repair themselves. Likewise, establishing a good nightly beauty routine is crucial. Just like how sleep can be a system reboot for our bodies, beauty routines at night can target and treat those stubborn beauty issues we face. Here are some easy tips and tricks to help you wake up glowing and refreshed:

  • Nurture. You've always heard that you should never go to bed with your makeup on, and it's absolutely true. To avoid clogged pores and breakouts, be sure to cleanse your skin to remove any makeup and dirt. Next, apply a toner and face cream as usual to hydrate so you wake up with soft, smooth skin. And last but not least, treat any skin problems you may have. Apply an acne spot treatment, use an anti-aging eye cream, pamper with a hydrating face mask, or use whatever kind of treatment your skin may be craving.

  • Moisturize. Our faces aren't the only places that can get rough and dry, so be sure to pay special attention to feet, hands, etc. Since our hands are one of the first places to show aging, be sure to apply a hand cream to keep them soft and pretty. Also, no one likes chapped lips, so apply a generous amount of lip balm to wake up to smooth and supple lips. Last, if you have cracked feet, elbows, or cuticles, you can apply a good amount of Vaseline and make your dry skin history!

  • Treat. Our hair gets so damaged throughout the day from styling, so applying a leave in conditioner or hair treatment is the perfect way to bring our gorgeous locks back to life. You can also sleep on a satin pillowcase, which is a little easier on our hair, to avoid shedding and breakage.

  • Hydrate. Drinking a glass of water right before bed flushes out toxins in our systems and deflates the puffiness under our eyes, which allows us to wake up with glowing skin and eyes. For an even more calming effect, you can drink some green tea with honey or a detox tea for the same effect.

  • Exfoliate. If you shower or bathe at night, a quick and simple step that can make a huge difference is body brushing. By brushing a natural bristle body brush in circular motions from the feet up the body and toward the heart, your skin gets exfoliated and toxins are flushed out of your system. This is a super easy way to detox your body and pamper yourself a little. Just be sure to shower or bathe right after to wash the dead skin cells that you just sloughed off. For an added bonus, you can use a body lotion after to wake up with super soft skin. 

  • Sleep. Finally, when falling asleep, position matters. Sleeping on your belly can allow any water to build up in your face, causing those annoying puffy eyes. Also, sleeping on the belly and sides can cause long-term aging of the skin, due to how our faces get squished into the pillows. To avoid all of these problems, sleep on your back. This way, puffy eyes and faces are a thing of the past, making way for a glowing and vibrant woman in the morning.

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Ashlyn is a small town girl with a big heart for family, laughter, and all things beautiful. This history nerd enjoys taking walks, yoga, delicious food, and of course, fashion and beauty. She desires most to see a world where women have true and deep relationships with themselves through Christ.

I can be selfish.  I believe we all can be, but often I notice how selfish I am during times of fellowship.  When it is time to connect and communicate with believers that I do not know, especially on a Sunday during the church service, I like to keep to myself.  Sometimes I am cool, but I find that I am more open one on one rather than with a group.  

I see the selfishness coming out when it is time to sing praise and worship songs to the Lord amongst other believers.  Especially when I am around someone who is pumped, excited, and singing really loudly.  Do you ever just want to hold onto how you feel because you are not ready to let go yet?  I realized that this is definitely not the right way to be, and it has nothing to do with them personally but everything to do with how I am feeling and what I am going through.  I get this way when I do not feel like being bothered.  I find that I want to be in the presence of the love and nourishment that fellowship brings, but when I find myself in this type of setting, I would rather isolate myself than contribute.  I just want to stay in my own space. I do not feel like going around greeting people, connecting with them, or hugging and smiling; I just want to stay in my own box.

How can I say that I am truly honoring the Lord and building up the body of Christ when I have this kind of attitude?

Truthfully we would rather hold on to our pride, securities, and comforts instead of reaching out to those in need because it takes effort; buy why would we deny others what we desire ourselves?

It is a lovely thing when you have someone's full attention. It is something I believe we all want, though I know things will not always be perfect, it is still important.  I have realized that I want to feel wanted, needed, loved, and cared for and sometimes without any distractions. I used to think that I did not need to have this from anyone and that I could get through on my own.  

The closer I walk with God, the more the body of Christ becomes important to me. A lot of times we look for love and affection everywhere but within and amongst believers.  

"Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken," (‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭4‬:‭9-12‬ English Standard Version).

Somehow, we have made up in our minds that Christians are absolutely perfect people and we look for them to be all that God is supposed to be in our lives. Yes, we are made in His image and likeness, but we are not and will never be who He is and what He represents in all of His glory and fullness.  

It amazes me that even though God is everywhere, we always have His "undivided attention."  It is such a beautiful blessing that helps us become fully whole and satisfied in and with Him.  These days, everyone is interested in tips on how to wait on or pursue the right spouse, or how can you be fulfilled in every way rather than being in a relationship with God. I know that God wants us to enjoy life, and He wants to bless us,  but like I once said to some of classmates, we are not here to fulfill our own will. If we look to God instead of these relationships, we will find all that we truly desire.

Married couples that I have spoken to have shared with me that when they made some attempt to change their spouses, God told them to work on their own hearts and relationships with Him and He would take care of the rest. Nothing should ever be more important than God.

With God, we never have to pretend to be anything or anyone that we are not.  You can simply be yourself because He sees every part of you.  I am not married, but from what I have seen and know from talking to couples, God gives you a very clear visual of what your heart truly looks like in Him through that relationship.  

Be satisfied and content with Christ. I learn this more and more each day, and it is so refreshing. When we stop trying to hide, we will realize that we are already covered in Him. God is the cord or third strand that holds our lives and relationships together. Trust in Him.

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Francine E. Ott is truly thankful to have a relationship with God and is seeking Him daily for guidance and any opportunities to walk closer with Him in truth and love. Francine is a choreographer/dancer, teacher, and soon to be counselor who has a heart to see God's transforming power, renew, restore, and heal the minds, souls, and bodies of people's lives.

What happens when you find yourself in an unevenly yoked relationship after you've said the big "I do?" What’s a wife to do in such a situation? 

Stop comparing
I can’t even begin to express how much turmoil and confusion you’ll bring into your soul and into your marriage by even the smallest form of comparison. The beginning of comparing your marriage to other marriages that seem to be so “godly”, or other men who appear to be such “mighty men of God” is also the best place for the enemy to get a foothold of your mind. Soon you become dissatisfied and even turned off by your man from looking at the grass on the other side. You might even start to believe that you’re not meant to be together. I mean obviously, you’re living in two different world, right? Then you feel stuck and the enemy has officially drawn you into a dark place of confusion. He’s successfully robbed you of your joy, and the potential beauty your marriage currently has, that you've become blind to, because you’re too busy seeing it for what it's not, thanks to your faulty comparisons. 

Everything is not what it seems. You have no idea what other couples are going though under the surface. Don’t let the smoke and lights of social media fool you. Prayerfully, they’re doing well, but all I'm saying is water your own grass. Proverbs 4:27 says, “Do not turn to the right nor to the left; Turn your foot from evil.” Focus dead ahead! No matter how disappointing it may seem sometimes, God has ordained your marriage and hasn't set you up to fail. He can create good from the bad if we have patience, trust in him, and make the investments we need to in our own bank (house). Successful marriages prosper not because they’re perfect, but because two people have made the decision to fight for it. And put on your positive glasses. I'm sure there are things about him that you love. There’s a reason you married the man. Don't forget about the man you married when you decided to spend your life together. 

Refill your well

So yes, marriage is work. Whether the man and wife are the most anointed people on the face of this planet, or you've found yourself in an unevenly yoked marriage; you’ll find at least one thing in common. Every marriage takes work. Because every marriage is the union of two imperfect people with different backgrounds, different upbringings and different personalities. And the truth of the matter is that, we’re not God. Our love is limited, our emotions get the best of us and sometimes its just draining. . spiritually, mentally, emotionally. 

When you’re in an unevenly yoked marriage and it feels like you’re carrying the spiritual weight of the household, you need to stay refueled. When you know you've been pouring out, there’s been turmoil in the house, and you’re starting to feel stressed out of your mind, you don’t know how much longer you can do this; that's a good sign that its time to refill your well. You’re starting to run on the fumes of your flesh and out of the vein of His spirit, which produces love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, faithfulness, gentleness and self control. 

My suggestion to get in a morning routine to set the pace of the day, even if that means waking up earlier to have a moment of prayer, reading, listening to music (and coffee, of course). Get on a daily bible reading plan. Share your burdens with a trusted and mature friend or mentor (of the same sex) you can confide in who’s a believer and wants the best for your marriage. Balance what you take on so life’s duties don’t neglect time that should be invested in spending time with the family. Watch a movie together, play a game, relax. 

Have grace

GRACE is the 5 letter word that has become the central theme of my marriage. I honestly, don’t see how a marriage could survive without a healthy application and understanding of grace. What is grace truly? Well, we can get a clear understanding from the Creator of grace Himself, which shows us a pardon and kindness we don’t deserve. Fueled by love, grace is an acceptance that can’t be earned by what we do or taken away by what we've done. The grace God has given us to sustain an everlasting relationship with Him is the same grace God is calling us to have for our husbands to sustain a lasting marriage. 

He will mess up. He will mess up bad. He will get on your nerves. He will do things the wrong way. He will say the wrong things. He will make you question how this will continue to work this way. And guess what? You’ll get it wrong too. That's what happens when two imperfect people come together. They become an imperfect couple. But GRACE is the substance that makes the unworkable, somehow work. Its recognizing and accepting that he’s a flawed human being and deciding that your marriage and your family—the big picture—is worth fighting for. So we forgive and we grow again and again and again. And just when it seems like we got it, we do it all over again. No, it wasn't in the fine print of your marriage certificate. But it makes us stronger, it brings us closer, and it takes us deeper. So have grace. Write it down. Paint it across your walls. Tattoo it on your forehead. Don't forget it. 

I've had women reach out to me about this more than once and from personal experience I can honestly say some days I've done well with these, other days I’m also a flawed human being which is exactly why we all need patience and grace, including your hubby. 

Let me pray for you: 

Father, thank you for my sister and the woman that you’ve called her to be. I ask that you continue to strengthen her with your mighty hand and remind her of the purpose you have called her to in her marriage. Cover her marriage Lord. And everyone in their household. May the words of her mouth and the meditation of her heart be pleasing to you as she fights to be the wife you’ve created her to be. Direct her steps. Fill her with your presence and remind her that she is not alone in this journey. Arrest the spirit of our men in a way that they can’t ignore. May they experience you in ways they’ve never known before. Remind us of your unfailing grace and where you’ve brought us from so that way may extend the same grace to those around us everyday. We’re clinging to your promises with faith. We thank you for all that you’ve done and everything you’re getting ready to do. In Jesus name. Amen.

Also read Part One here

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About the Author :

Brittney Moses is happy wife to Jonnese and mother to Austin. In June 2012, she founded Unashamed Impact, a worldwide organization uniting young believers in Christ to rise to their calling and gather to take action in their cities through evangelism and community outreach.