The Proverbs 31 woman is slightly daunting for the modern woman. A woman who gets up early only to have her entire life revolve around sewing, cooking, cleaning, and bearing children? To be honest, it doesn’t sound very appealing. And, how am I supposed to be a Proverbs 31 woman if I don’t even have a family yet??

Not unlike the world’s false standards of “beauty” that we fall short of, God seems to have provided for us yet another impossible standard that we could never measure up to. Why even bother to try??

We find ourselves picking only the verses we like, and leaving out the rest. “She is clothed with strength and dignity, and laughs without fear of the future.” Hmm. I see this quoted a lot. Who doesn’t want to be clothed with strength and dignity? This girl seems fashionable and fun! Why not be that girl and leave the rest?

Because God’s word is not a menu for us to pick and choose from. It is all or nothing.

Let’s see what this woman is really all about…

Who can find a virtuous woman?

What does that even mean? The word for “virtuous” here actually means, “strength, might, valor, and power.” It is the same word used to describe David when God had chosen Him to be king. This Proverbs 31 woman is to have the heroic strength that led David to kill lions and bears, and lead armies into the battles of the Lord to destroy the Lord’s enemies. She is to let nothing stand in the way of God’s purposes in her life. She possesses the strength of God in all she does, and claims His victory over the world.

“God made me a girl. And He did that on purpose. But He asks me to become the kind of girl who is actually useful to His kingdom purposes. I need to become the sort of girl who is unafraid to poke my head into the battle of the ages and cry out, “Who is this uncircumcised Philistine who is blaspheming the armies of the living God?” God wants me to wrestle. God wants to stick grit in my girliness. He wants me to be prepared to tangle, to interlock my soul in this eternal combat—- not with other girls, not with sweaty boys, but with Him, and with the otherworldly powers of darkness. He wants me to wrestle in prayer, to grab ahold of His great and precious promises and fight to see them unfurled in living reality on this Earth.” -Leslie Ludy

So the Proverbs 31 woman does more than cook dinner on time and keep a spotless house? She is busy serving the Lord. She does her work with her hands unto the Lord, and not unto men. She serves the Lord to the best of her ability in every capacity that she is called. She has compassion on others, seeks to help others, and is kind in all she does. Others are proud to know her and honored by her friendship.

She maketh herself coverings of tapestry, and her clothing is silk and purple.

This girl takes care of herself, and presents herself with grace and dignity for her Lord. She does not neglect her appearance in the name of “spirituality,” nor does she draw attention to herself with her body. She possesses the set-apart femininity that God has cultivated inside of her, and dresses accordingly to bring glory and honor to Jesus Christ. We can literally get up, get dressed, put our makeup on to the glory of the Lord, and to present ourselves with grace and dignity to others in His name.

Strength and honor are her clothing.

There is that word again, STRENGTH. As women, we often feel as though we are supposed to be quiet and controlled by everyone around us. We feel constantly “Shhh’d.” The Bible says we are supposed to be of a “meek and quiet spirit.”


Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting of the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. 1 Peter 3:3-4

That does not mean that we are to have NO personality, and we are supposed keep our heads down and not speak to people. That would be the opposite of honoring to God.It simply means that we are to adorn ourselves on the inside and place value on that above all else. We are to have a graceful, selfless attitude so that we do not draw vain attention to ourselves so that others will constantly see the beauty of Jesus Christ in our lives, and speech, and actions. It is possible to have a friendly, outgoing personality AND the gentle, selfless spirit that God considers of great price.

“When He [God] talks of their losing their selves, He means only abandoning the clamour of self-will; once they have done that, He really gives them back all their personality, and boasts (I am afraid, sincerely) that when they are wholly His they will be more themselves than ever.” -C.S. Lewis, The Screwtape Letters

She will rejoice in time to come.

God has given us so many promises to take care of those who walk uprightly and seek to please Him in all that they do. When we are looking to Him to fulfill His promises we can walk in His peace and His strength. The strength that the Proverbs 31 woman exudes is not in and of herself. It is from the mighty hands of God. Because of our trust in His strength and not our own, we can attempt to live lives that other women would not even attempt. So often, we expect far too little of our great and mighty God.

I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me. Phillipians 4:13

Favor is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.

When people think of this woman, they think of Jesus. She is praised not because of her own beauty, but because she is clothed with HIS beauty and HIS strength and HIS honor. When God is given His rightful place in our lives, then He can transform our personalities and everything He made in us to reflect His beauty and grace.

We are not called to live holy lives on our own. We could never do it. We are called to live in His strength though so that the world can look at us and say, “There is no way that she is doing all that in her own strength.” When we show the world His strength instead of trying to measure up on our own, we can draw attention to Him through our lives.

Her price is far above rubies.

The Proverbs 31 woman remembers the price that was paid for her- a price far above the most costly vanities of earth. Jesus Christ bought and paid for her with His precious blood. He did not pay this price only for her salvation. He bought her very soul. She belongs to God, and through this transaction, she is enabled to live a valiant, virtuous life through the strength of Jesus. When she is completely abandoned to her Savior, she can showcase not her own, but HIS strength, and beauty, and grace.

It is time that we stop shying away from things that seem too hard or too big to measure up to. It is time we embrace the strength of our Savior so that we may can be marked with the valor of Proverbs 31. It is time that we as women embrace the example of Proverbs 31, and live a life in the strength and dignity of our Savior for His glory.

** Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.

The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.

She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.

She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.

She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.

She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.

She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.

She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.

She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.

She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.

She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.

Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.

She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.

Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.

She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.

Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.

Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

Have you ever read something that resonates so loudly within your heart that it just stops you in your tracks? This morning I’m having one of those moments where I feel compelled to sit down and pour my heart out. Though the pace and schedule for today is hectic, I absolutely cannot continue through the motions of the day without capturing a snapshot of the vital truth that has so pierced my heart.

This morning I was reading in John 1 where Jesus called His first disciples to follow Him. I was absolutely floored when I discovered that in the very first interaction Jesus had with Simon, He changed His name to Peter. There was no getting to know each other casual conversation, no parables, no teachings or commands to come and follow Him. What a prime example of, first things first. Jesus simply identified Simon by His man given name, and then said, “…You will be called Cephas.” (Which translates to Peter). (John 1:42)

When I read this I promptly read the study notes on the bottom portion of my Bible and saw that it is noted that Peter means “rock.” It’s also mentioned that Peter was anything but a rock. He was impulsive. Careless. Unstable. Unpredictable. Inconsistent. In other words, Jesus named Him not for what He was, but for what by God’s grace He would become.

Seriously, reading this, made my heart leap for joy!

If you’ve made a commitment to follow Him, He has renamed you! Not for who you are, but for who you will become.

You may have once been named wounded, He calls you healed!

You may have once been named prisoner, He calls you free!

You may have once been named trashed, He calls you treasured!

You may have once been named neglected, He calls you child!

When you meet Jesus— you get a new name. Immediately.  One cannot meet such a Savior and remain unchanged! I’m thankful that the Maker of the Universe, knows me intimately enough, to change my name...not because of who I am….but because of who I will become by His grace!

A book I once read, translated our names in Christ in a way I will never forget… may my new name always be, “I am NOT…but I know I AM.”




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1 John 4:1 “Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits, whether they are from God; because many false prophets have gone into the world.”

A few days ago, I met a guy in passing. He offered his business card for me to give him a call. The business card was for some sort of entertainment business, but no clear indication of what type of entertainment. If you know me, then you know I’m interested in the entertainment industry. However, immediately once I read the card, I said out loud to myself, “I ain’t no hooker!” I have no idea why that thought came to mind, but just reading the card immediately annoyed me. Later that night, I decided to call, just to see if my female intuition was on point. Prior to calling, I had a quick discussion with God. I said, “Look God, I need to know by the end of this conversation what this guy is about, I don’t have time for this.”

The phone conversation lasted exactly 3 minutes. Within those 3 minutes he was trying to figure out how he could come see me and get a back massage. Really? I told him I don’t do all that! I shut all of that down and told him to have a nice evening and a nice life.

You have to test the spirit! Otherwise, you will end up with another broken heart filled with disappointment and sadness. I don’t have time for that and I’m sure most of you singles don’t either! God was revealing this guys spirit to me once I received the card; it had lust all over it. What may have looked promising was not! There are many spirits listening in on your conversations about your dreams and aspirations, but only One has your best interest at hand and that’s the Spirit of God!

John 10:10, “The thief does not come except to steal, kill, and destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.”

Earlier that day, I was speaking to a co-worker about my preference in dating southern men, which you will rarely find in Northern California. This so-called entertainment guy I met was from Atlanta, Georgia. Really? Out of all the men in California, I met a southern guy in the entertainment business? Had I not been in tuned with God, I could easily mistake these “signs” to mean God sent him to me! The enemy will send you signs as well. You have to test the spirit.

1 Thessalonians 5:21-22, “but test everything that is said, hold on to what is good. Abstain from every form of evil.”

Many times we see what we want to see, or believe that we are receiving messages from God, when in reality we are receiving attacks from the enemy. He knows what you’ve asked God for because you continuously focus on your next relationship, job, ministry, financial breakthrough, or whatever you’ve made your top priority. You can ask God for anything, but you can’t make it your main focus, because the enemy will definitely use your requests as a way to enter in and throw you off track. It’s okay to work hard, plan ahead, and succeed; however, you have to allow God to become your main focus.

Psalms 37: 4-5, “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of the heart. Commit your way to the Lord, trust also in Him, and he shall bring it to pass.”

Get in tuned with God and He will direct your steps whether it’s as simple as a phone call or a major move in your life. He wants to be able to help you through every situation you will encounter. He knows you and he knows the spirit that operates in those trying to come against you. You have the upper hand in everything you will ever face because you have the Spirit of God working within you and around you. If you can’t figure something out, ask God. He will reveal himself to you and give you the best advise because he loves you. In order to test the spirit, you have to know the only right Spirit … the Spirit of the Almighty God!

1 John 4:1-6 “Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits, whether they are from God; because many false prophets have gone into the world. By this you know the Spirit of God: Every spirit that confesses that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is of God, and every spirit that does not confess that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is not of God. And his is the spirit of the Antichrist, which you have heard is coming, and is now already in the world. You are of God, little children, and have overcome them, because He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world. They are of the world. Therefore they speak as of the world, and the world hears them. We are of God. He who knows God hears us; he who is not of God does not hear us. By this we know the spirit of truth and the spirit of error.”

Godly Reminder: Galatians 5:16, “I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.

As I sit here, laying on the beach sand, listening to the roars of the waves. Your ocean over powers the sound of children and adults laughter and play. The roaring sound of your long, everlasting sea brings joy and peace to my mind. It keeps me centered and settled like no other state of mind. I yearn for your presence during this time and place in my life. When all things are going wrong around me in, such a confused state of mind; When distractions come to take me off track, I hear your small still voice in the sound of the roaring seas, saying, “Be still my child and wait on me. For I Am with you in a time of need, I Am with you in every circumstance, I Am with you in every difficult situation. I Am always shielding and covering you.”  In the calmness of your voice, I seek direction. 

In the calmness of your voice I seek peace. In the calmness of you voice, I seek refuge. In the calmness of your voice, I seek wisdom. You are the center of my life and soul. My spirit is entwined with your spirit. We connect in a way like no other; you are my all and all. With your outstretched hand you love me with pureness and heart. My life represents you with fullness of content. I am astounded by your love and grace. I run to you when I have missed the mark. No, I am not perfect, but you know the treasure of my heart. I bow down to you in reverence of who you are…I bow down to you in the reverence of your name. No one else can fill me with the power and presence of your name. I worship you and make you top priority in my life. You are awesome in all your ways. Your love cannot be measured because it covers me like a never ending blanket and like the ocean where it has no ending destination. I will always admire you in all adoration and exaltation upon this earth. Sweet sounds I hear when you call my name. You are an awesome wonder, the great ALMIGHTY, and the everlasting KING. I will forever honor you and keep your word for instruction to my life. 

Oh….Lord when you call my name, may my heart be tender to surrender for the pathway you have chosen for me. May I not harden my heart out of disobedience, and I give my soul my heart, my life to you. Do with me as you please and I give you the right away and get out of the way to allow you to sit in the driver seat of my life. It is not always easy, but your way is always better. I commit myself to you, my sweet love, my sweet dear. I enjoy spending time with you to make my life so clear. I pray dear Lord, that I will always be in a humble position to hear your voice and follow not another. Thank you, Lord, for this time I have spent with you…now I get up from your beautiful sand and return to life with your hand in my hand. I will never forget this talk we had, just you and me.

As women, we tend to find our worth in taking care of others. As mothers, we pride ourselves on how well we take care of our children. As wives, we base our status on how happy we’ve made our husbands. As daughters and sisters, it is determined on how well we care for our family members and ensuring that they know we love and appreciate them. In taking care of everyone else, we neglect ourselves. This is counterproductive. How can you pour into others if you are not full yourself? It is imperative, as Godly women, to spend time filling up on God so we can give ourselves to others.

We need to make it a priority every day to spend time with God. I personally like to take the David approach. David says in Psalm 63:1 “O God, You are my God; Early will I seek You; My soul thirsts for You.” I tend to find it better to spend time with God first thing in the morning. It gives me peace, which helps me to be a better mother to my daughter. Honestly, sometimes it is hard to get up early; however, I take time to acknowledge God before I leave my bed, no matter what! Early mornings are not everyone’s forte; the only thing that matters is that you do it.

Spending time with God is vital to our ability to fulfill our roles as women. I like to compare it to using a cell phone. We use our cell phones for many things. We make calls, text, Instagram, tweet, update Facebook, and much more. The more we use our phone, the more our battery drains. As our phone begins to die, the less effective it is at doing all the things we need it to do. We must plug in our phones and charge it to bring it back to full capacity. We would never expect our phones to work at their full capacity if they weren’t recharged. The same is true of our everyday lives. We cannot expect to operate in our full capacity as mothers, wives, sisters, daughters, employees and all the other roles we have to take on without recharging. We need to plug in to our Father in order to be the most effective.

Here are some tips for making this a reality:

Schedule time with God. Just like you may set a date to spend time with friends and family, do the same with spending time with God. Being practical about it makes sure that it gets done. It takes 21 days to create a habit. Until it becomes habitual, set a time in your phone or create an alarm to ensure that it gets done.

Set aside a private place. Setting aside a private place eliminates distractions; it also ensures that you really hear from God. It creates a space where you can be free, vulnerable, and build a genuine relationship with God. When we look at the life of Jesus, He would go away to spend time with the Father.

Make time with God personal. There is no set formula for spending time with God. Realize that your time with God does not have to be the same each day; it keeps the spice in your relationship with God. It also helps you to enjoy your time together. If your quiet times become ritualistic, it becomes more of a chore than building a relationship.

To be the best we can for others, we must first start with caring for ourselves and our spiritual relationship. Make spending time with God a priority.

Life Happens. For how long you ask. For as long as you continue to live, life will happen. And not only does life happens, it comes at you…FAST.  Does it seem like one thing after another thing after another thing keeps coming at you?  That’s what I call LIFE.  The past 12 months for me have been just that - a succession of major life events.  This time last year I was dealing with both of my parents being in the hospital in South Carolina at the same time (mind you they had been divorced for over 30 years but in some strange twist of events they were in the same hospital on two different floors at the same time).  My mother was having another bout with intestinal blockage that yet again needed to be surgically removed and my father was diagnosed with cancer.  On the other hand, my son was here in North Carolina, battling another sickle cell disease crisis in the hospital.  Did I mention that I am an only child and a single parent? 

My mother got better but my father passed away almost a month later after being diagnosed with cancer.  It was quick.  He was here one day and gone the next.  We didn’t have much time to make peace with any of it. His kidneys began to fail on October 31, 2011 and he transitioned into his eternal resting place with the Father on November 3, 2011.  4 days.  That was it; much too fast to say goodbye to a daddy’s girl’s heart.  Life happened. 

Later in the month of November, I found myself in the hospital emergency room with a sky high blood pressure.  The pressure of mourning, loving, healing, working, and taking care of a growing teenager, started to affect my health.  In December 2011, my son was back in the hospital having another sickle cell crisis.  In January 2012, my father’s older brother died and in February 2012 I was laid off of a job that I had been on for the last 5 years.  All the while, I remained a faithful servant in my local ministry as a teacher of preschool age children, ages 1-3.  A succession of nights was happening so fast that the joy that comes in the morning seemed like a fleeting breath of nothingness. 

So what do you do?  I really can’t tell you any one thing that I did.  There were people around me speaking life in to my very existence.  Not that any of them had been through what I was going through in the way that I was going through it.  No, God reserved this process just for me.  I would say to a close friend, “I don’t know who I can talk to about all of this because I don’t know anybody who has had to juggle and balance all that I’m going through at the same time”.   I felt like Job with none of his patience.  I was done but I couldn’t give up.  Not that I didn’t want to give up, I couldn’t.  It was physically impossible for me to quit.  And then it happened.  Another friend who was going through the pain of losing family members back to back said to me “Hold on to your faith”.  So simple but yet ever powerful.  

There is an adage that says “When you get at the end of your rope, tie a knot and hold on”.  I always question what do you do when your grip starts slipping?  What do you do when the knot starts to unravel?  I say let go. Yes. LET GO. Let go and free fall into God. Tumble, glide, jump, leap, sail, dive, into the arms of the loving, patient, all-knowing God.  It may not be as graceful as an Olympic diver’s dive.  It may, in fact, look like you are jumping from a skyscraper that is ablaze.  Do whatever you have to do to allow the Great Jehovah to catch you.  It is a scary feeling.  It is terrifying.  You have to learn to trust that the God that allowed the trouble to hit is the same God whose name is above every name.  He is the same God above every situation.  He is the same God above sickness, disease, and even death.  He is the daddy of the daddy of the daddy’s girl.  He is the protector and defender of the weak.  I learned that when I am weak, that’s when I’m strong because the Christ in me is the Hope of Glory.

Hold on to your faith, but if you have to let go, let go in God.  May your mourning be turned to gladness.  May you dance in the knowledge and understanding that your test is your testimony.  Not after the fact, but in the middle of your mess, someone is getting a message straight from the heavenlies.  I’m learning that strength comes. You may fall apart and that is perfectly okay because the one who made you knows how to put you back together again.  He is the King.  You may feel like Humpty Dumpty for a short while but you don’t have his dilemma.  You will be put back together again.  You will be stronger. You will be healthier. You will be wiser. You will have more compassion. Your life will have added value. Life may have happened to you but you will have conquered the obstacles and earned the badge of honor. Yes you may have painful battle scars, but the end result will be a faith filled life that will encourage the next soldier. Keep pushing.  Keep praying.  Keep Believing.  Hold on to your faith!

Practical Application:

1. Rest.  Easy to say. Hard to do. My body literally said to me “Go sit your behind down somewhere!”  You absolutely will kill yourself trying to do a balancing  beam act where there is no balance.  The best thing you can do is lay down. You have to get into a space where  you can clear the maze and race that is going on in your mind.  A rest period every day is vital.  There is nothing like a mid-afternoon nap.  Even if for only 15 minutes.
2. Exercise also helps with this process. Take a walk or run, do Yoga, take an exercise class, ride a bike.  Any activity that will increase your heart rate will help. This will cause an increase in endorphin's which help to lift your mood. You will see a return in your energy and endurance.
3. Let the tears flow.  There is a cleansing that happens when you cry.  Yes eventually, you have to dry your eyes, but you are allowed to feel the emotions.  Feel every emotion.  Good, bad, or indifferent, the emotions are yours.  Humans are triune beings.  We spirit, body, and soul. Our mind, will and emotions are housed in our soul. Even the Bible declares that Jesus wept.  So who are you to believe that you should not experience the varying emotions that come with being processed.

Growing up, I had always dreamed of finding the guy of my dreams, falling in love, getting married, and living happily ever after. That was the goal. That is when my life would begin.

Well, the years went by with still no luck in relationships, and I started to think, I am in my 20′s….. and I may not be married till I am in my 30′s, and I am waiting to “begin my life” until my wedding day. Will I someday look back on my younger years and think that I wasted them? Wasted them wishing for a guy to come save me…wishing for a life someone else had… wishing for my fairy tale ending?

No. Not me. I will not waste these days, because I will not get them back. There are things I can do, and focus on, and strive for right now that I would not get to do if I was married with children. God has a plan for this time, and I will not miss it, by wishing my life away or feeling bad for myself when I am right where God wants me.

This life is not about me.

I am not promised tomorrow. I could die before I ever get married…. or I may possibly never get married. It may just not be in God’s plan. Could I be content with my life if that happened?

It is all about Him. The end. Not getting the stuff we want out of serving Him.

Everyone wants it. That perfect relationship. The one where he calls you beautiful, and special, and his. The one where everything reminds you of that person. The one where when you spend time together, you are completely happy and at peace. The one where you just know…. you just know that you were meant for each other.

He is my perfect forever relationship. I have found who I was meant for… and, here is the cool part, you are meant for Him too. Each and every one of us were meant for God. You and God were literally made for each other.

No, really and seriously, you were made FOR God, and made to be with Him. He made you for Himself.

I can not tell you the freedom came when I realized that God is my other half…. and not just until someone better comes along. It is not about getting what we want out of God, It is about being completely His.

You were created to bring Him pleasure with your fellowship, with your singing, with your beauty, with your praise, with your love.

He is the One for you. He is our true love, our fulfillment, and our joy.

Behold, what manner of love the Father hath bestowed upon us, that we should be called the sons of God. 1 John 3:1a

And ye are complete in him, which is the head of all principality and power. Colossians 2:10

So many of us are searching for that person here on earth. We are waiting for a somebody to come along and fill the void. We look for a completer piece to an emptiness in our hearts that was meant for God alone to fill, and until we discover this, we will not be whole, relationship or not.

You were made perfectly by God with everything you need to bring Him joy and glory. He made your face exactly how he loves it. He gave you the perfect hair, skin, and teeth to bring a smile to his face. Your personality is just right for Him. When He looks at you, He is enthralled with your beauty. He is always there to listen and give the best and most perfect answer.

Out of all of God’s creations, you are one of His very favorites.

He longs to have a relationship with you. He longs for you to know His love. He longs to fill your heart, and give you peace and satisfaction with His promises and comforts found in His word. It pleases Him to be number one in our hearts, and to obey His words out of a heart of love.

He loves you more than anyone you have ever known on earth with a love you could not even imagine. He is your other half. Fall in love with Jesus. That’s it. He offers so much more than anyone in this world ever could give, and it is a relationship better than any you will ever know.

A human being on earth can never fulfill what was meant to be filled by the one you were made for, and it will destroy your relationships if you expect them to. You will have a miserable life and marriage if that relationship is where you find your identity….. even if it hasn’t happened yet.

God will never leave you or forsake you. He comforts, and restores. He leads you and guides you. He is your best friend, and your closest ally. He knows you the best and loves you the most.

The LORD has appeared of old unto me, saying, Yea, I have loved you with an everlasting love: therefore with lovingkindness have I drawn you. Jeremiah 31:3

God is the end. He is our happy ending. Christ is our goal. A husband is great and a blessing from God, and there is nothing wrong with getting married. I certainly still want to… but, if God has chosen to keep me for Himself, and to be completely and solely His for a while longer…. or even forever, I can be content with that. It even makes me feel special. Because I am made whole, filled up, and complete… and in love with Him. Because, even after marriage, no one will complete me and fulfill me like Jesus does.

There will be a wedding one day, more beautiful than we could ever imagine, when our Prince will come. When a nail-scarred hand will reach out and take ours, and lead us through the gates of heaven to forever be with our Bride-groom. This is the wedding day that is our goal.. that is the happy ending, and that day is only the beginning. This is the day that should give us butterflies in our stomachs, and this is the day we should be preparing ourselves for.

So… Stop waiting, and start living. Start living for the One who loves you. Start falling more in love with Him everyday. Start finding your everything in His arms. Stop wasting your days pining over whats not in God’s plan yet. Stop waiting to give your everything to someone else. Fall in love with Jesus, and give your everything to Him.

Your life is now.



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