Dear Woman Struggling with Insecurity



“See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are. The reason why the world does not know us is that it did not know him. 2 Beloved, we are God's children now, and what we will be has not yet appeared; but we know that when he appears we shall be like him, because we shall see him as he is.” 1 John 3:1-2


I remember stepping on the scale mortified at the number I saw. Tears welled up in my eyes and feelings of anger and defeat filled my mind. I avoided looking in the mirror because I was repulsed at what I saw. Brushing my teeth or doing my makeup was a challenge for me because I hated the way I looked. No amount of makeup was going to make me feel better or look better in my mind. No amount of compliments would suffice for my already conjured image of self-worth.

Without even realizing it, I had let worldly things influence my view of who I was and who I was supposed to be. Hurtful words my neighbor said to me when we were 10 years old about my weight or being told “you’ll never be good enough” from an ex was buried deep in the subconscious of my being. It was things like this that I allowed to cloud and skew what I knew to be truth about who I was. Society always told me that I’ll never be desirable unless I look a certain way, and I know now society will continue to preach anything but the truth about women.

Dear sisters, I know how hard these kind of things are. It is so hard to rest in the truths about what the Scriptures say when we live in such a secular and sexualized society. It is difficult, but it is not only possible but essential to our walk with Christ. We are new creations in Christ, and it is Christ alone who defines where our “self-worth” comes from (2 Corinthians 5:17). God has created us with a divine purpose and uniqueness (John 1:12). Because of Jesus, we can be content and rest in the will of the Father who is drawing us ever close to Him (1 Peter 2:9). The image the world presents to us and the image the Bible shows us will always differ greatly, but we must conform the Biblical one (Romans 12:2). In my own experiences, I know I have many insecurities, but when I look to Christ and the Scriptures I know that I am an indeed an image bearer (Genesis 1:27). It is the finished work of Christ that makes me secure. Sisters, our identity is in Jesus, and this is good news. Christ makes us beautiful not by anything we do or don’t do. Strive for contentment in this truth.


Dear heavenly Father, thank You for Your goodness and mercy. Thank You for loving me despite all my insecurities. Forgive me of my sinful ways of thinking, and humble me, Lord. Conform me to the image of Chris, and help me to always be reminded that my identity is found in Him. Amen.

Your Turn

Do you struggle with finding your worth in things of this world? Meditate on 1 John 3:1-2, look to Christ, and pray that God would transform your heart and mind to know and experience His love on a deeper level.