God's Purpose for the Single
“And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28 KJV
I remember being single and yearning for marriage—the perfect man, the perfect wedding day, and living the perfect life. Just like in the movies, right? I longed to be with a man who adored me and loved me endlessly, almost to the point where it became an idol in my life. I would jump from relationship to relationship, hoping the next guy would be the man of my dreams…yet in the end, I was discouraged and far from the Godly marriage I craved.
Singleness can be a long, lonely, and dreadful road…especially when it’s unwanted. Over time I learned God does not grant temporary joys like marriage because he, in his all sovereign knowledge, is committed to giving us what’s best for us, when it’s best for us…if even at all. Like it says in Romans, God’s purpose is better than we could ever imagine. No matter how hard singleness is, no matter how good marriage seems, no matter how much we desire it, God will never abandon the greater plan he has promised us. Marriage may or may not be his plan for you, but whatever plan he has, we need to trust him and be fully committed to his sovereign will.
Single ladies, I encourage you to reflect on your lives. Are you aiming to glorify God? Where is your heart concerning marriage? Jesus is the only thing that can truly satisfy the void in our hearts—no spouse, no friend, no amount of money could ever fill the space inside of us made especially for him. Singleness can be a difficult path, but as followers of Christ, making the most of each journey is another step of faithfulness in your testimony to others.
Father, thank you for the gift of marriage. Help me to rest in the strength and hope you bought for me when you sent your Son to die on the cross. Remind me that you are working out every detail of my life for your good and your glory.
If you are married, how can you reach out to someone who is single and encourage her today? If you are struggling with singleness, reflect on 2 Corinthians 12:7-10.