“However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” — Ephesians 5:33 ESV


As many of you know, marriage has a way of exposing our sins. I’ve only been married for nine months, but I know this to be true. I often find myself nit-picking my husband’s actions and always thinking of ways he can be a better husband to me. My days were consumed by thoughts concerning ways he could improve my life and my needs. It wasn’t until the other day it dawned on me: this whole time I’ve been criticizing him, when it’s myself I should be examining. How can I expect him to be this perfect husband, always tending to my needs, when I’m not living up to the role God has called me to fulfill?

Wives, I encourage you to take a step back; Instead of examining our husband's flaws, let's examine the sins that have crept into our own hearts. We are not called to change our husbands. Only God can do that. Christ has called us to submit, love, and encourage our husbands.

Here are two simple ways we can do that:

1. Pray for him daily: as wives, we know our husband’s struggles, his ups and downs, and his strengths and vulnerabilities. We need to run to God with our prayers and concerns, knowing He will work in our husband’s heart in His perfect timing.

2. Encourage him, especially in trials: as it says in Ephesians, we need to respect and love our husbands, lifting him up even in the darkest of times… This is where grace and mercy will thrive.


Father, I pray You will equip me to be the wife I am called to be, encouraging my husband every day and night. Thank You for Your grace and mercy… I know I cannot be the wife you call me to be on my own. Give me the ability to love my husband as You have loved me.

Your Turn:

How can you encourage your husband today? Make it a point to write down specific prayers throughout this week.  


Raegan Thornhill

Raegan is wife to an amazing man of God. Oklahoma born and bred.
Her mission in life is to spread the Gospel and tell people of her Savior's undying love.
Visit Raegan at her blog Delighted In Him.