How to Encourage Your Flawed Husband


“However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” Ephesians 5:33


As many of you know, marriage has a way of exposing our sins. I’ve only been married for a little over two years, but I know this to be true. I often find myself nit-picking my husband’s actions and always thinking of ways he can be a better husband to me. My days are consumed by thoughts concerning ways he can improve my life and my needs.

It wasn’t until the other day it dawned on me: this whole time I’ve been criticizing him when it’s myself I should be examining. How can I expect him to be this perfect husband, always tending to my needs, when I’m not living up to the role God has called me to fulfill?

Wives, I encourage you to take a step back; instead of examining our husbands' flaws, let's examine the sins that have crept into our own hearts. We are not called to change our husbands...only God can do that. Christ has called us to submit, love, and encourage our husbands.

Here are three simple ways you can do that:

1. Pray for your husband daily. As his wife, you know your husband's struggles, his ups and downs, and his strengths and vulnerabilities. Run to God with your prayers and concerns, knowing He will work in your husband's heart in His perfect timing.

2. Encourage him, especially in trials. As it says in Ephesians, you need to respect and love your husband, lifting him up even in the darkest of times. This is where grace and mercy will thrive.

3. Keep him accountable. You are your husband's helpmate (Genesis 2:18). Ask him how he is doing with temptation. Let him know you want to be there for him especially when he's fighting sin. Your marriage should be a safe space to share each other's struggles and to point each other to truths in Scripture.


Father, I pray You will equip me to be the wife I am called to be, encouraging my husband every day and night. Thank You for Your grace and mercy…I know I cannot be the wife You call me to be on my own. Give me the ability to love my husband as You have loved me. Amen.

Your Turn

How can you encourage your husband today? Make it a point to write down specific prayers throughout this week.  

About the Author

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Raegan is wife to an amazing man of God and mom to her baby boy, Weston. She is the director, content manager, and writer at Whole Magazine. She believes cheesecake, snow, a cup of hot coffee, and an episode of Breaking Bad can fix any dreadful day. Her mission in life is to show women of all ages how they can be whole again through the Gospel of Christ. She longs for her writings to be a testament of the mercy and grace God has shown her. You can follow more of Raegan on her blog, Delighted In Him.