“For the Lord will be your confidence and will keep your foot from being caught” Proverbs 3:26
Self-esteem; we women know that word all too well. We’ve probably fought against low self-esteem since we were young. Webster’s defines self-esteem as: a confidence and satisfaction in oneself. Our flesh wants a high self-esteem; we want to have confidence and satisfaction in ourselves. But in the spirit, our confidence should be in Christ. As Christians, we should be walking according to the spirit, not the flesh. Gal. 5:16.
We are sometimes taught to glorify self: what can we get from God to make us feel better, for us to have a higher self-esteem. This kind of teaching completely puts the focus on us, to lift our self-confidence, and to be satisfied in ourselves. Unfortunately, it takes away the truth of God’s Word that we are fallen sinners, wretched and in need of God’s grace. Grace should be sufficient for us, because His power is perfected in our weakness. 2 Cor. 12:9. I want to be weak if it means that Christ’s power is perfected in it! I don’t want confidence in myself, my abilities or what I can increase to build my self-esteem.
Sugar coating our feelings and emotions by putting the good self-esteem stamp on them glorifies self. The opposite of self-esteem is humbleness and humility. We are to humble ourselves before the Lord. James 4:10. Let’s choose humility over self-esteem, to humble ourselves so we can be exalted in Christ, alone. Luke 14:11. Let’s have Christ-confidence and Christ-esteem!
Lord, may we dust off the sugar coating of our feelings of needing to have self-confidence and higher self-esteem. Help us to bring ourselves before you in humility and have confidence in your grace as you are perfected in our weakness.
Do you know other sisters in Christ that battle with low self-esteem? Commit to spending time together digging into God’s Word, and lifting each other up in prayer. Encourage each other to have humility before the Lord; to remove self, and replace it with Christ!