“Sow for yourselves righteousness; reap steadfast love; break up your fallow ground, for it is the time to seek the Lord, that He may come and rain righteousness upon you.” Hosea 10:12 NIV
It is beyond evident that we live in a society that keeps propelling us to embrace our individuality and autonomy. Although nothing is wrong with embracing our uniqueness, I have noticed that many single women and even married women have become hyper focused on self. Specifically speaking, in dating- we have become so absorbed in the whole “finding the one” fantasy. I have seen so many single women solely concentrated on this list of things (personality traits, physical features, etc) that their future spouse must fulfill in order for them to even be considered “marriage material”. Instead of relying on God to fulfill their needs many have looked to a spouse (or the idea of a spouse) to do what only God can do and this is a sure set-up for failure. Obviously, it is important to avoid being unequally yoked, but our selfishness has clouded us to the Word of God which states that we are nothing apart from Christ (John 15:5).
What if, instead of focusing on finding “the one”, we looked to Christ and made it our goal to prepare ourselves to be “the one”? As Christians, we are called to live as Jesus did (1 John 2:6) and godly dating should display Christ ultimately, not us. When we understand that God is the only one who can fulfill all of our needs, it allows us to remain steadfast in our walk of obedience to Him, not getting wrapped up in the idolatry of self and man.
By being women nourished though the Word, prayerfully walking in faith, going to war with our sin and killing it, and never taking our eyes off of the Gospel, we are able to serve God better and in turn become the spouse that we would want our significant other to be.
Dear heavenly Father, thank you for Your goodness and mercy. Please help me to forsake my selfish ways and to pursue Christ and His righteousness first and foremost in all aspects of my life. Give me eyes to see You and be reminded that You are all I need in this life. Help me to become more like You in all that I do, Lord. Thank You for loving me and accepting me. In Your precious and holy name I pray, Amen.
Are you self-absorbed or Christ absorbed? What are some ways you could be seeking God first in your life? Meditate on Hosea 10:12 and be reminded that we are here to glorify God. Make it a priority to read His Word daily.