Selfishness Will Ruin Relationships



“And He died for all, that those who live might no longer live for themselves but for Him who for their sake died and was raised.” 2 Corinthians 5:15 ESV


Selfishness has destroyed so many relationships I have had. Friendships have been ruined and dating relationships have crumbled. I see this happening all around me, too, with other people. Majority of the secular society we live in is caught up in autonomy and individuality. They work towards the greater good of themselves, trampling anything and anyone that gets in the way of what they want. Sadly, much of this secular lifestyle has bled over into Christian culture. I admit I have hurt people because of my selfishness, but I have also been on the other side of things. I’ve been hurt immensely by the selfishness of others, yet this has only drawn me closer Christ and His unfailing love.  

Dear sisters, the Lord has shown us in the Scriptures that anything done out of our selfishness leads to disorder and wickedness (James 3:16). I mean, we all know this to be true. We are called to die to ourselves and set our minds on the things of Christ (Romans 8:5). Christ selflessly served others and gave His life as a ransom for many (Mark 10:25). Think about this: God sent His only Son to pay the penalty for our sins. Something WE deserve (death), but by the Grace of God we are pardoned. It is by His grace through the work of the Holy Spirit that helps us die to our selfish, carnal nature. When we forsake our selfishness, we can begin loving others like Christ…even when they least deserve it. When we do this it reflects the saving grace that was given to us by God. We should strive to serve others instead of ourselves. Christians, never forget we are called to show others grace just as Christ has shown us.


Dear heavenly Father, thank You for Your grace and mercy. Thank You for the Gospel, Christ, and the Holy Spirit. Give me grace to show others and cleanse me of my selfish, deceitful heart. Help me die to myself and live to Christ. In Your precious name I pray, Amen.

Your Turn

Are you more concerned with serving yourself or others? Read Matthew 6:33, Galatians 5:13, Romans 12:11, and Philippians 2:3-4. Meditate on those Scriptures and pray.