Singleness Is a Gift from God
“I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own gift from God, one of one kind and one of another.” 1 Corinthians 7:7 ESV
I used to believe my singleness was a problem to be fixed and that the main goal in life was marriage. I longed to be loved unconditionally, for someone to respect me, for someone to treasure me as I am, with every blemish, imperfection, and sin. Feelings of rejection lingered after a breakup, and time was ticking if I was ever going to settle down, get married, and have children. I know many women have the same feelings as I did. The church has this notion that marriage is somehow more of a gift than singleness, but this is simply not true. Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7 that “each has his own gift from God, one of one kind and one of another.”
Sisters, self-controlled singleness is not a problem to be fixed—it is a gift from our Heavenly Father, and it is a testimony of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. If you are single today, God has assigned that singleness to you; it is His gift to you. As Elisabeth Elliot says, “Singleness ought not to be viewed as a problem, nor marriage as a right. God grants either as a gift.” Embracing the opportunities you have as a single woman, even if you long to be married one day, allows you to fully grasp the gift God has ordained for you in this very moment. You have a unique freedom which allows you to serve in ways that marriage and parenthood would not.
Happiness is not found in finding a soul mate—it is through finding satisfaction in a loving and merciful Savior who has called you His own and made you a new creation in Him. Whatever season God has you in, choose to flourish and grow right where you are. Embrace the gift God has assigned to you, whether you are single or are married. Trust that both callings are precious gifts to Him, and both come with truths saturated in the Gospel of Christ.
Father, help me to see my singleness as a gift from You. My desire is to be married one day, but encourage me to not waste my singleness and to live out the Gospel daily. Thank You for Your many continued blessings in my life. Amen.
Do you view your singleness as a gift from God? Reflect on 1 Corinthians 7.