The Foxes Are Ruining Your Marriage



“Catch the foxes for us, the little foxes that spoil the vineyards, for our vineyards are in blossom.” Song of Songs 2:15


I love foxes.

You can imagine my frustration with this passage. Currently, there’s a fox calendar to my left and my fox journal to my right. My fox-resembling dog is curled up on the floor at my feet. I have fox shirts and fox socks. Foxes everywhere! Except one place: my marriage.

Marital intimacy is so important; the Bible warns us to look out for the things (the little foxes) that strive to ruin it. Our “foxes” might look like selfishness, anger, or pride. Maybe it’s an unforgiving heart. These pesky red and white creatures show up in the form of withholding ourselves from our spouses or making children our top priority. They may not seem like a big deal, but they’re sneakily stealing the sweet closeness which should encompass a marriage.

Furthermore, marriage exists to display the Gospel to the world (Ephesians 5). When we allow our union with our husbands to remain contaminated with sin, we mar the image of Jesus and His Bride we’re supposed to display. Whether the attack is from an outside source or from within our own sinful hearts, we must rid our marriages of these “foxes” to protect intimacy with our spouses. If we don’t, our marriages will come to ruin, and our Christian witness will be dimmed.


Father, will You open our eyes to the little foxes which set out to destroy our marriages? Show us where we need to repent and any boundaries we should set up to protect our intimacy with our husbands. May our marriages shine brightly with Gospel-hope in a dark world. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Your Turn

Identify the “little foxes” in your marriage, and communicate with your husband to find a way to catch them together.


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Brittany Allen is a follower of Christ, wife to James, and momma to three in Heaven. She exists to bring God glory and prays her writing is an avenue for that. She longs to encourage women to think and live biblically and thrives on seeing women open up their hearts to the Savior and to other women around them.

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