The Heart of a Gentle Spirit


“Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice! Let your gentle spirit be known to all men. The Lord is near. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:4-7


Gentle people aren’t gentle because they have simply bottled all their frustration and anger inside. Gentle people don’t have this kind of spirit because they simply grit their teeth all day with clenched fists and a strained smile. Gentleness begins in a heart that is set on this truth: the Lord is near (Philippians 4:5b).

A gentle woman has a deep, residing peace in her heart that keeps her from becoming anxious, angry, and stressed. She knows her life is in God’s hands, therefore anything that passes by her, it first passed through Him. Anything she experiences was put in her life by her sovereign and good God for her best and His glory (Romans 8:28-30).

Knowing this, she is able to react and think reasonably to conflict and stress. She knows God has not abandoned her but is with her even still. She has her eyes set on eternity, the things that matter most, so the troubles of life do not frazzle her. When people hurt her, she finds comfort in knowing her perfect God never will. When she is without, she finds peace knowing God is her provider.

She has a Colossians 3:1-4 heart:

“If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. For you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. When Christ who is your life appears, then you also will appear with him in glory."

With her mind set on the glory of eternity, there is no place for anxiety in her heart. Her only response to life can be a gentle one.


Lord, at times I do not respond to life with a heart that believes You are in control. Instead, I respond with fear and anger and impatience rather than gently and calmly. Help me to grow in gentleness by trusting You with each moment I pass through. Amen.

Your Turn

What frazzles you? What makes you frustrated? What makes you impatient? What makes you the opposite of gentle towards others? Consider these things, and see whether they are caused by a lack of trust in God.

Lara d'Entremont is a a child of God, a wife, and a Biblical counselor in training. As someone who has been made anew by God and completely transformed by Him, she wants to point you back to that same gracious Savior. You can visit Lara on her blog, Renewed In Truth.