“For although they knew God, they did not honor him as God or give thanks to him, but they became futile in their thinking, and their foolish hearts were darkened…Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen.” Romans 1:21; 24-25 ESV
Growing up I was always taught sex is inherently wrong…and if you participate in it (especially before marriage) you would never see Heaven. I was never explained as to why sex outside of marriage is sinful; instead, the haunting guilt of it skewed my view of a perfectly God-ordained gift. Yet our culture today outright praises sex outside of marriage and doesn’t see how destructive it can truly be. There are naked girls on billboards, porn access with the touch of a button, and couples engaging in sexual sin before marriage. If it is so available in our culture, then why does God call it an abomination?
Why God intended sex for marriage, between a man and a woman, is plainly written out in Scripture. And once we realize it is for our good, for our protection, and ultimately to glorify God, our whole view of sex changes. Our sexual sin will only cause destruction, and God knows this best. The Bible diagnoses the root of sexual perversion in Romans 1—our dishonorable passions are a demonstration of a humanity unhinged from its Creator. The core root of sexual sin, heterosexual and homosexual, comes down to pride and selfishness.
Pride is a dark hole consumed with selfishness at the core of our fallen nature. It takes what God intended for good and uses it for self’s desires. Pride continually lies, saying our sexual desires will bring us eternal happiness—but in reality, that happiness will last only a few seconds to be followed up with a lifetime of eternal damnation with no true repentance.
Ladies, if you are struggling with sexual sin, know that there is always hope. Our most powerful weapon in the fight against sexual impurity is to humble ourselves before the Lord and to admit we are weak. In Galatians 2:20 it says, “I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.” Because the reality, sisters, is we are not our own. We now belong to the One who died for our sexual immoralities, and because of Him, we don’t have to fight this battle alone. The key to our freedom of killing sexual sin is embracing our weakness and running into the arms of our Father. It is there where we will find endless redemption.
Father, forgive me for my sexual impurities and thoughts. Help me to set aside my pride and know that Your design for sex is good and perfect. I know that I am weak and need Your help, God. Give me the strength to persevere daily, humbling myself before you. I do not deserve Your grace or Your mercy, yet you bestow it on me forevermore…and I am eternally grateful. Captivate my thoughts, and lead me to a repentant heart, hating my sin and loving more of You.
Are you struggling with sexual sin? Do you have a skewed view of God’s design for sex? Pray God would give you a renewed heart. Reflect on Romans 1.