To the Wife Talking Badly About Her Husband


“So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets." Matthew 7:12


Your husband has sinned against you once again, and you need someone to talk to. You decide to vent to your best friend, telling her all the details of the gruesome fight you had with your spouse. Instead of protecting his privacy and feelings, you lay it all out there - how terrible of a husband he is, how he lied to you, and how you will never be able to trust him again.

Friend, I understand your hurt and pain. And I see this type of behavior all around me. It's easy to want revenge and to have a calloused heart when someone has hurt you deeply. But this doesn't excuse us talking badly about our spouses.

The words of Jesus that we do unto others what we would have them to do us as said in Matthew 7:12 applies profoundly to us in marriage. Husbands are commanded in Ephesians 5:28 to "love their wives as their own bodies", which is extremely correlated to "love your neighbor as yourself" (Matthew 19:19). We should treat our spouses in a way that exudes trust, respect, and privacy...and we should treat them in a way that exudes Christ.

We as wives should think long and hard about the words spoken about our husbands. Are they spoken in a respectful manner? Would our spouses be hurt if they were hearing the words coming out of our mouths? We should not take Ephesians 5:33 lightly: "However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband."

We should ask ourselves whether we are sharing the right amount of detail. Is it too much? Are we sharing in the right tone? I urge you to examine the way you talk about your husband - are you honoring God with your words?

We can get counsel and help for our marital struggles without talking badly about our spouses.


Father, I thank You for my husband. Please forgive me if I have talked about him to others in a negative light. I want to glorify You in our marriage, Lord. Help me to be a respectful and trustworthy wife. Amen.

Your Turn

Do you struggle with gossip and slander against your husband? Pray God would give you a regenerate heart. Repent and ask for forgiveness. Go to a trusted pastor or counselor for help with your marriage.

About the Author

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Raegan Thornhill is wife to an amazing man of God and mom to her baby boy, Weston. She is the Co-Founder, content manager, and writer at Whole Magazine. She believes cheesecake, snow, a cup of hot coffee, and an episode of Breaking Bad can fix any dreadful day. Her mission in life is to show women of all ages how they can be whole again through the Gospel of Christ. She longs for her writings to be a testament of the mercy and grace God has shown her. You can follow more of Raegan on her blog, Delighted In Him.