Ungodly Children


“A foolish son is a grief to his father and bitterness to her who bore him.” Proverbs 17:25


There is often a misconception that if parents are godly, their children are assumed godly. Christian parents can and will have ungodly children, that is the truth of it. Sometimes we can do our best, raise our children in the Lord, teach them His ways and His word, and they still leave our homes as foolish, ungodly sinners. They have no reverence or respect for their parents, showing no obedience. They can be unthankful and selfish. They think themselves wiser than the parents. A son or daughter can cause grief, sorrow, aggravation, and yes, even bitterness, as the key text describes. But they are foolish, as all the lost are foolish (1 Corinthians 2:14). Just as those of us in Christ were shown our own foolish, sinful, and depraved natures before the Lord saved us, know that is how our kids are because they are lost.

Godly parents, do not condemn other Christian parents for raising kids that are not in the faith. We are to encourage each other in the Lord. Those of us with ungodly children do not need our burdens magnified by others placing the blame on us for our lost children. I have seen it so many times. Pray with grieving, sorrow-filled parents who are desperate to see the Lord save their children. Praise God if you have godly children, no matter their age, and lift up in prayer those children who are lost.

As a born-again Christian, Christ carried me from wrath to grace. My heart longs for and desires for my son to be born again. I am in fear of the heavy judgment awaiting him, but I seek Christ’s strength in this fear. I seek His comfort, His will, and His grace. I also will not sugar-coat the reality that my child is lost. I sometimes feel ashamed I didn’t do enough to teach him about our Savior. But I, as well as any parents with ungodly children, must pray!

Stay in prayer for the salvation of your children, sisters. Let’s stop looking in the mirror for someone to blame, and put our eyes and trust in the only One who can save them.


Father, salvation is nothing of our own doing, so I pray that You will draw the hearts of our lost children, and by Your Son, they will be saved.

Your Turn

As we approach Mother’s Day, we are all so thankful to be moms, aren’t we? This was not to show a part of me that is unthankful, because I love my son, and thank the Lord the for him! But this was to show the reality that there are burdened mothers out there longing to see the salvation of their children. If your children are in the faith, would you reach out to a mother in your local neighborhood or church whose child is lost, and let her know you are praying for the Lord to save him or her?

About the Author

Kelly Smith is one of our devotional writers and also a writer for Women’s Hope Project. Kelly is a wife, mother, and grandmother. She works full time as a virtual business manager. Her hobbies include writing and baking. Kelly has a passion for studying the Word of God, doctrine, theology, and sharing what she learns with women around her. Kelly lives in Florence, Alabama, with her husband of 15 years and her rescued fur babies!