When Motherhood Doesn’t Come Easily



“Your steadfast love, O LORD, extends to the heavens, your faithfulness to the clouds.” Psalm 36:5


She said, “I’ve learned that for some, motherhood comes easily, but for others it’s a really hard journey.”

My friend is right. As I witness women who long to be mothers but have no husband yet, women who are dealing with first or secondary infertility, women whose adoptions fall through or foster child returns home unexpectedly, and of course women who lose babies, my heart aches for all of them. Each of our struggles and pain are unique. It plays out differently in each of our lives. Feelings of confusion about why it’s so easy for others yet difficult for us are burdensome.

Being a mother is a good desire, but maybe God is showing us how to desire Him more. Maybe He wants to give us more of Himself in this season. Maybe He’s changing us, molding us, and making us more like Him. No, not maybe, but definitely. Instead of wishing for this part of life to be finalized in pictures and scrapbooks of the past, let us draw near to Jesus and learn to savor the good through the tears. He’s walking this painful journey with us, and He has crafted a story that will cause us to fall before Him in praise, even if we don’t see it yet.

One day we’ll look back and see that His faithfulness truly extends to the clouds.


Father, so many of us fight a daily battle against envy and despair. The weight of barrenness exposes our sinful hearts. We are broken, and yet, You remain faithful to us. I praise You that Your love is steadfast and that You can be trusted. Help us to rejoice with the women in our life to whom motherhood has come easily. Give us grace to keep running the race You’ve set before us. In Jesus' name, Amen.

Your Turn

One way to step outside of your pain is to focus on serving others for the Gospel. I encourage you to think of a woman you can bless to day. Drop off a bag of small gifts to a friend, clean the house of a busy mom, or maybe even find a tangible way to serve the pregnant women around you. It will be hard, but being selfless always is.

About the Author

Brittany Allen is a follower of Christ, wife to James, and momma to two in Heaven. She exists to bring God glory and prays her writing is an avenue for that. She longs to encourage women to think and live biblically and thrives on seeing women open up their hearts to the Savior and to other women around them.