8 Steps to Keeping a Christ Centered Relationship
The best thing any relationship can have is God at the center of it. This means that your relationship is being led by God, and your actions do nothing but shine light on The Almighty. I myself have been blessed enough to be in a relationship with someone for a little over 2 years, and God comes first in all things we do and say. He is always our top priority and our mediator for everything that goes on in our relationship.
When you have two people in a relationship who go straight to God for everything, it’s the perfect relationship. God should be at the center of everything you do.
So how do we do this? When we choose to pursue a relationship with someone who is a follower of Christ like us, how do we keep the relationship Christ-centered? Lucky for you, I have some tips:
1) Remember that God’s love is the best you’re going to get.
Sometimes when we get into a relationship with someone, it is so easy to get caught up into that one person. You think that it is going to be your fairy-tale relationship/marriage, so you rely on that person’s love for everything. But you have to realize that, only God and His love can truly fulfill all of your needs and wants. God gives you love and comfort like not human on this earth ever can. When entering into a relationship with someone, make sure that you are content & confident in your relationship with The Lord. Realize that His love for you is abundant and it’s a love that no person can beat. Never rap your identity around a guy! Always put God’s love first & foremost!
“Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.” - John 15:13
2) Pray, pray, pray. Alone or together!
Pray about your dating relationship. You know that saying, “Let go and let God?” Yeah. This applies here, girls. Talk to God about the problems that arise & let Him handle it. Prayer is the best thing you can do! Thank The Lord that He has given you a special someone to spend your time with. Rarely do we ever thank God for the little things in life. This is your chance to do it. Let God in, and He will guide your relationship exactly where it is supposed to go. While your individual prayer life in a relationship is important, it is also good to pray with your boyfriend or husband. Praying together, means experiencing God together. Learn about one another’s prayer styles (Yes, people do pray different ways. Ex. I write my prayers..), and help each other long. Grow with one another through prayer by building up traits such as trust, love, and forgiveness.
“Continue steadfastly in prayer, being watchful in it with thanksgiving.” -Colossians 4:2
3) Talk about God & Read the Bible together.
Make a serious effort bringing God into your conversations. This way, it will not only keep The Lord on your minds, but it will help you discover more and more about the other person and their beliefs. I mean, come on, what gets any better than talking about God with the one you love? Discussing The Lord allows you to expand on each other’s knowledge and confidence. Reading the Bible, in my opinion, is crucial to having a God focused relationship. God gave us the Bible to study it, to learn from it, to learn about Him through it, and to use and share it as an everyday tool. If you don’t know His word, and if you aren't educated on The Lord and His mindset, then how can you truly have a relationship centered around Christ? Try reading the Bible together. My boyfriend and I have made the choice to read the Bible from cover to cover. It is fun, spiritual, and who knows? Different verses or pieces of Scripture could help you along the way in your relationship.
“The Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success.” - Joshua 1:8
4) Serve by getting involved in the community or your church.
Make sure that your boyfriend and you are 100% active in the body of Christ. Your actions are way more important than the words you speak. Serve Him; that is what He has called us all to do. Shine light on His Kingdom together. It will make you feel good, it will make other people feel good, and most importantly, it’ll make God feel good. Sharing God’s love with other people is one of the best feelings. So go out and do some volunteer work, donate money, clothes, etc. to a charity, contact a nonprofit to see what you can do. It is simple things like this that will uplift and motivate you as a couple, as well as other people.
“As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God’s varied grace: whoever speaks as one who speaks oracles of God; whoever serves, as one who serves by the strength that God supplies- in order that in everything God may be glorified through Jesus Christ. To him belong glory and dominion forever and ever. Amen.”- 1 Peter 4:10-11
5) Touchy subject: If you’re dating, be careful with physical affection.
God created physical affection to be good. But be careful in how much physical permission you give once another. A relationship can turn sinful as soon as you know it if one little slip-up happens. Believe me when I tell you to: stay pure. It will save you from a whole lot of trouble. If you feel guilty for your actions, it is a good indication—a red flag—that you are going too far. Avoid physical actions that would cause lustful thoughts. Wait till marriage to have sex. What might be innocent and “okay” for others might be very dangerous and risky to you…
“Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexual immoral person sins against his own body.”- 1 Corinthians 6:18
6) Have a blast praising and glorifying The Almighty.
Simply have a good time. Remind yourself that God is with you every step of the way. When you and your partner get alone, praise God and thank Him that He has given you the opportunity to help build one another up. Rarely do we ever stop and thank God for the little things in life. He wants to be thanked…He wants to be praised! So do it! Trust God and know that
God has your back. He wants the best for both of ya.
“Praise the Lord! Praise God in His sanctuary; praise Him in His mighty heavens! Praise Him for His mighty deeds; praise Him according to His excellent greatness! Praise Him with trumpet sound; praise Him with lute and harp!”-Psalm 150:1-6
7) Show the love of Christ to each other.
Make sacrifices for each other. Serve one another. Go to a sporting event. Go get some ice cream. Go ice skating. Watch a movie. Put one another above yourselves. Find tiny ways to surprise the person and show your affection and love toward them. You know all of those lessons of love and peace God has shown you over the years? Use those as your examples. Use those examples and the morals you took from them, and bring that love to your boyfriend.
“Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.”-1 John 4:7-8
8) Keep in mind that God is real.
Being in a relationship with someone you love, can bring you such great joy and happiness to your life. But remember that God’s love is something so phenomenal, so astonishing, so extraordinary, you do not want to miss out on it. God is real. His love is real. God is love. His forgiveness is real. His promises are real. God’s love is perfect. Let His love reign in your relationship. Let the love between your partner and God be a banner to the world displaying God’s goodness!!!
“For invisible attributes, namely, His eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly perceived ever since the creation of the world, in the things that have been made. So they are without excuse.”-Romans 1:20
Hopefully these tips will help you all in your relationship. Remember to focus on Him. Find someone who is going to hop on board with you, and fully commit to The Lord with you. I am beyond blessed enough to have someone that is just as in love with Jesus as I am. We have the greatest relationship because we focus all of what we have…on Him, and that’s the best decision anyone could ever make when they are with someone.