Once upon a time, I thought I was so in love. I remember how much I wanted to spend every minute of my day gazing into his eyes, cuddling, having long conversations and sharing secrets and desires. He felt like the “real thing” at the time. I just knew our love would last forever…and I did my best to try and make it last.
They say hindsight is 20/20, and looking back I can clearly see that what I felt was love wasn't love at all. Yes, I had a strong yearning and desire for him that was overwhelming at times, but it wasn't love…it was more like lust. Everything this man and I shared satisfied my fleshly craving for attention and affection, but it did nothing for my spirit. God was not a part of our relationship at all! Our “love” was all about satisfying our needs and indulging our own wants and desires. In fact, whenever we tried to pray together, attend church services, or even discuss scriptures, we would encounter some sort of conviction about the lifestyle we were living together. Lusts of the flesh are sins that lead to a separation from God, and this relationship was doing just that. Eventually, after much heartache and disappointment, we separated and moved on.
Some years later, I married the man God sent for me. My husband challenges me to live out the instructions found in 1 Corinthians 13 about real “love.”
I’ve learned that love isn’t always easy and it’s almost nothing like what we see in movies. Love is not about diamond rings, lavish trips, and shopping sprees. It’s not about having someone to fulfill your every wish and desire. It’s not even about sex on the beach or passionate kisses in the rain while your favorite love song plays in the background. Love is giving, hoping, sacrificing, enduring, growing closer to your partner and closer to God.
Are you in love or in lust?