When we are in the midst of hurt, sadness, sorrow and confusion, it’s difficult to understand why it’s happening – let alone how it could be beneficial.


Being “broken” doesn’t necessarily mean that something dramatic or drastic had to happen to you to get you to that point. Each one of us is completely broken spiritually, mentally, and sometimes even physically if we do not know the love of Jesus. It is this love that allows us to function normally, it is to the human spirit as oxygen is to the heart. We were all born broken, and only become who we were created to be once we become one with our Creator.

It is our brokenness that takes us on a journey that will be beneficial to not only God, but to us as well. How, you might ask? It’s really quite simple: brokenness gives us a testimony, which in return brings glory to God. Without a testimony, we would not be able to reach people for Jesus; they would never know His love. A testimony is the link that helps the witness connect the listener to Jesus. As it says in 2 Corinthians 1 v 3-4: “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.” 

We can never give away anything that we ourselves have never had. When we are in the midst of these tribulations, it seems impossible to believe that anything good could come out of it, but rest assured, there will be plenty of good to tell. The truth is, we are all broken in our own way, and some of the things that God has in store for us requires us to be whole. It requires one to be so in tune with the guidance of the Holy Spirit.

Sometimes, when we rush into things and find it hard to understand why we seem to be stagnant, we should stop and ask God what He’s trying to tell us. More often than not, it’s just Him trying to protect us from what He knows will damage us even more. For example, it’s very common for single women to focus on their desire for a husband and kids, more than they focus on allowing God to heal them from past hurts, disappointments and mistakes that they might be ready to step into their desired season. 

When you’re married, there are so many other things that need your attention. Catering to the needs of your husband, running a household, caring for your kids, to name a few, will be on your list of priorities. No longer will you have the amount of time and focus to be able to seek God intensely about whatever it is that might withhold you from experiencing His complete joy in a marriage as He intends. This can cause deeper issues such as depression and malfunction. This is but one example of the importance of healing and the preparedness of a heart. 

Seek God about the hidden corners of your heart, the little things from the past that you have forgotten about, the hidden emotions that were not dealt with after that last break-up. Those will cause you to go into a new season with old baggage, when God intends for you to go into it whole and ready to receive the blessings that come along with it. If you wait patiently and actively for the Lord, you will surely have a testimony to share. A testimony of how God has healed you of your hurtful past. A past that was once confusing, but now makes perfect sense. You will be able to comfort other women who find themselves in your shoes. A testimony that will bring life and inspiration to so many others. A testimony that will sow seeds of hope in the hearts of those who have lost faith in Jesus. You will be the salt that brings the lost to the light of Christ.

Wait patiently for the Lord to bring your breakthrough as He comforts you and equips you to comfort others. Fear not and do not be dismayed, it is our brokenness that strengthens our relationship with our compassionate Saviour and allows us to grow.


by Danelle Vingtas