A Thousand Years

Guest post by Brandi Fanell

I am a big, big, BIG Twilight fan.

I am sad that there won't be any more movies, yet I am very satisfied with how it ended.
Today, I heard the song from the soundtrack: "A Thousand Years" by Christina Perri

I love this song. Besides this being a love song (obviously) the lyrics just speak so much to me.

"--- I have died everyday waiting for you
Darling don't be afraid, I have loved you for a thousand years. I'll love you for a thousand more.
--- And all along I believed I would find you
Time has brought your heart to me, I have love you for a thousand years. I'll love you for a thousand more.
--- One step closer"

Now I don't know anyone who has or can love anyone for a thousand years... and in 2013, a couple lasting longer than 5-10 years is so rare that upon meeting me, guys ask "Are your parents still together?" And that is not only sad, that is a post for another day.

There are a lot of single people out there. They say that they haven't found the right one or they prefer to be single. For those who prefer it-good for you. For those who don't, let's talk about those lyrics I love...

"----I have died everyday waiting for you..."

What does that mean? Obviously, it is not literal. If you physically died you could not live to see another day. I believe that this lyric means a part of her died everyday until the love of her life found her. And what does that mean? If we want to be in a relationship/married we have to die everyday. A little piece of us has to die in order to make room for someone else. We have to die everyday to ourselves. Because once you are in a relationship and/or married it's not about you anymore. The world does not revolve around you. You can't do whatever you want, move wherever you want, or make decisions on your own anymore. You begin sharing a life with someone. So that means you have someone to be accountable to and responsible for. Someone depends on you. Someone needs you. Someone expects things of you. And if you have not died a little everyday to every selfish desire and every "me" attitude you have, you will have to keep waiting...

And ladies, that is the key word for you. If you want to be married you must wait. Wait. Do not go looking. Do not "put yourself out there" like society (or your friends) may say. Just wait. I read something recently that said, when Eve was being created/prepared for Adam, God put him in a deep sleep. And it wasn't until Eve was complete that God woke Adam up and then presented Eve to him. {Genesis 2:21-23}

So ladies, what we can get from that is:
1) We have been created for our husband - there is someone out there for us. Just for us. We were made for that one man. Therefore he won't be with someone else. And if he is, he won't be for long. Remember, Adam was sleeping. What God has for you is for you. But also remember, thou shall not covet!
2) When single, we are being prepared for our husband- so don't sweat it. If anything, just love God, love yourself, and get ready. Do what you need to do to be ready for that life with someone you want. Finish school. Start your career. Learn how to cook and keep a good house. Clean up your credit. Forgive and let go of the past. Take your focus off getting a man and put it on living right and being whole.
3) While God is preparing us, our man is sleeping- so that is why I say don't go looking or put yourself out there. Your man is sleeping right now and won't see you anyway!
4) When we are ready, God will wake up our Adam and present us to him- We will be presented. We won't have to present ourselves. We won't have to wear our “freak'um” dress to our friend's birthday party to grab his attention. God will work the situation and timing out just right that our Adam will see us (when we are ready) and he will claim us and call us his woman (fiance/wife/ Mrs.) just as Adam did {Gen 2:23}

"---All along I believed I would find you..."

All the while you are waiting (ladies) and looking (fellas) believe.

If you can believe it you can achieve it. That's what one of my Old Catholic schoolteachers used to say. And it is true. Once we make our mind up about something or decide something it is as good as done and nothing else matters. So make up your mind that your mate exists and you will come together at the right time and the right place. Decide not to worry about the details. Decide to just believe.

Believe that there is someone specifically made just for you. Who will be everything you could ever want and exactly what you need. Believe it like I believe I have the cutest kid in America. Believe it just like you believe can't any choir sing like your church choir. Believe it just like you believe that your mama's cooking is the best. Believe it like you believe you look good in your favorite jeans. Believe it like those folks who go on American Idol, with no talent whatsoever, believe they sound like Mariah Carey or Whitney Houston. Believe it like that!

Don't fear. Don't doubt. Don't get dismayed. Don't watch your biological clock. Don't worry about always being a bridesmaid and never a bride. Don't worry about all your boys having kids and here you are with no kids AND no girl.

It's better to wait a thousand years for the right one than live a day with the wrong one.

And remember, each day that passes you're "one step closer...." 



Brandi is thirty-one year old, single mother. She is a Praise and Worship leader at her church and Sunday School teacher. Brandi works as a clinical trainer working with children with Autism. She has a passion for writing and presently working on a book. Brandi strives to seek out ways (with the leading of the Holy Spirit) to touch people's hearts and change lives one piece (of writing) at a time.