No Strings Attached: Untying Soul Ties

By Marquisha Harden



Have you ever tried slipping your foot into a shoe that was already tied? The last time you wore it, you forced your foot out of the shoe by stepping on the back, using the opposite foot and walked away. You didn’t untie – maybe because you were eager to get into something more comfortable. What’s even funnier is when you are in a rush and because you had not previously untied that shoe, the next time you’re ready to wear it, you are squirming and shoving your foot back into the shoe racing to your next venture. It all sounds crazy, but we all do it because we’re always in a rush. We’re always in a rush to get comfortable or race out the door.

Putting on and taking off shoes is a simple process: untie the shoe and put your foot in, then tie the shoe. When its time to take the shoe off, all you have to do is simply untie the shoe and remove your foot. It’s a lot easier than all the squirming and shoving. This process is very similar to releasing yourself from ungodly soul ties you’ve created, but have yet to be untied from.

Soul ties are created in various relationships because the spirit operating in you is attached to certain people, places, and things that you’ve opened up to. They can be healthy and unhealthy. Healthy soul ties can be created in families, ministries, and marriages that are led by the Holy Spirit. They operate in God’s anointing power because they reverence God and are constantly building each other up in accordance to his word. Healthy soul ties link you to the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. You receive confirmation and understanding regarding God’s plans for you. Ungodly soul ties are the complete opposite and can be one of the hardest things to get rid of. However, it is possible and like tying your shoes, it is a process.

You must be willing to go thru the process of being untied from the people, places, and things that go against God’s will. Most often, we remain tied to our exes long after the relationship has ended because we failed to untie ourselves from them. We argued and got upset and stormed out of the relationship, but find ourselves constantly praying they return or trying to rekindle a flame that needs to be beaten and burned for good. Just like that shoe we had to untie, we have to untie ourselves from relationships that aren’t prosperous, before we can move on with our lives.

We have to pray and ask God for clarity and direction. We have to be committed to the process of releasing them and being released from them. We can’t hold on to them and try to move on at the same time. It’s not going to work; it will bring more heartache and confusion. It will hinder you from entering into another relationship because you are still holding on to the past. It will also interfere with their future relationships because you refuse to let go.

I used to say, well, I haven’t slept with this person, so I’m not sure how I could possibly have a soul tie with them. Physical contact is not a prerequisite for a soul tie, your soul is. Unless you guard your heart and lean on God’s divine power to align you with the right people, places, and things, you will be at risk of an ungodly soul tie.

Proverbs 4:23, “Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.”

I recently had to come to terms with the fact that my best friend and I (male of course) would have to release each other. We’ve never had physical contact and even expressed with our mouths that it was over, but we never released each other. We tried keeping in contact just to update each other on accomplishments and family matters, but we were only fooling ourselves. If there was something going on with him, I knew it in my spirit. If one of us was upset with the other, we already knew why. The pain of losing the other seemed far greater, so we held on to the friendship; we were spiritually vested in each other. He could tell if there was something I needed to ‘get off my chest’ and knew my thought processes and vise versus.

But, we have to be untied. No more trying to stay tied together and have an easy transition to our next venture. We have to sit down, untie the laces, so we can move on. We have to be fair to our future relationship. It’s so easy to want to hold on to what’s convenient, but its much more rewarding to stick to the process of letting go because you receive freedom. You afford yourself the opportunity to meet the right person. You also afford them with the freedom to move on with their lives, no strings attached!

If you find yourself constantly trying to reconnect with a relationship you know should have ended, its time to let it go! Get untied, be free, and walk away! Connect with the Holy Spirit and allow Him to guide you in every good work of the Lord. He won’t fail and you won’t have to go thru the process of Him leaving you no matter what you do. Once you receive Him, there is nothing that can separate you from God’s love.

Romans 8:39, “No power in the sky above or earth below – indeed, nothing in all creation will ever separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

What do you need to be untied from? Speak to God about your concerns and commit to the process he reveals to you!