It is tough to take on a task confidently when you are under the influence or leadership of someone who is controlling; it can be very burdensome. Many times when people feel this type of burden, they may continue to carry it, in order to avoid painful or vulnerable situations that bring forth a sense of guilt, unworthiness, embarrassment, or loss of respect. A need to be in control can ignite stress, fear, and anxiety within relationships. It also suffocates the possibilities of true intimacy and vulnerability; which can be the seed of growth and development in a person’s life, empowering them to communicate and connect.
In the midst of a controlling environment, the seeds that would produce the fruits of the spirit (Galatians 5:22-23) are immediately snatched away, chastised, choked, or burdened, and can produce an individual who feels the need to be legalistically and lawfully perfect. “The seed that fell on the footpath represents those who hear the message about the Kingdom and don’t understand it. Then the evil one comes and snatches away the seed that was planted in their hearts. The seed on the rocky soil represents those who hear the message and immediately receive it with joy. But since they don’t have deep roots, they don’t last long. They fall away as soon as they have problems or are persecuted for believing God’s word. The seed that fell among the thorns represents those who hear God’s word, but all too quickly the message is crowded out by the worries of this life and the lure of wealth, so no fruit is produced” (Matthew 13:19-22, New Living Translation).
Many perfectionists have possibly, in the past been compelled to obedience, which could make the walk of faith tough for a Christian who struggles with this. God calls for obedience, and quite often for the believer to obey, even when things are out of their control. There can be a battle in surrendering your power or voice in these instances because to be led by God calls for vulnerability. It can be hard to be vulnerable when a person is in situations that remind them of being in a controlling environment that did or does not allow them to be an individual. This type of guidance can be very heavy and weighted for a Christian because, one must give up self or one’s own interests and plans in order to be born again and joined together with Christ. "If you refuse to take up your cross and follow me, you are not worthy of being mine. If you cling to your life, you will lose it; but if you give up your life for me, you will find it. Anyone who receives you receives me, and anyone who receives me receives the Father who sent me” (Matthew 10:38-40).
About the Author: Francine Ott
Francine is truly thankful to have a relationship with God and is seeking Him daily for guidance and any opportunities to walk closer with Him in truth and love. Francine is a choreographer/dancer, teacher, and soon to be counselor who has a heart to see God's transforming power, renew, restore, and heal the minds, souls, and bodies of people's lives.