I never had a wedding. My husband and I got married on a Monday in our casual clothes while standing in the living room of a total stranger. It was just the two of us. Sometimes when I look back on that day, I wonder if we really understood the largeness of the decision we had just so casually made.
We had dated for nine months. For me there was never a doubt that this was my husband. I can recall having a pretty serious conversation with him a few days before the big day about how we both would "only be married once." It was forever. There was no other option. I cooked him dinner the night before, which was also his birthday, and joked that it was his last meal as a "free man." I saw a heaviness in his gaze. He knew our lives were about to change, but I'm not so sure I did.
I have spent the greater part of my life making spur of the moment choices and not thinking about the future consequences. At the time of our marriage vows, neither of us had a personal relationship with God. But when I look at the events that followed our wedding day, and the years of struggles we have endured together, I see that God was pursuing us even then.
He stitched us together. And even though the world and its people have made some attempts to break us apart, our bond is stronger only because of God's place at the heart and center of our marriage.
In our world, there is so much emphasis on the option of divorce. It's like a warranty or guarantee that if your marriage isn't going the way you think it should, or if you just don't "feel" the same, you can just leave and start over fresh with someone new. And if the new spouse doesn't meet your expectations, you can just go ahead and opt out of that marriage too!
This is not marriage the way that God intended.
Now please don't misunderstand me, sometimes divorce is warranted and valid. Those times I think are rare, and not nearly as common as divorce has actually become. I think couples fall apart, fall away from each other, fall away from God dwelling in their union. When this happens, it's easy to think that you fell out of love. It's easy to think that somebody else can fill that hole. It's easy to think that life could be better elsewhere.
The hard part is actually staying and working it out. Marriage is not easy. No one said it would be. But it is worth the work. The enemy will use every weapon he can find to convince you otherwise. STAND FIRM and know your authority. Recognize the battle and seek God's Word to guide your way.
The Lord will always be pulling for your marriage, just be sure to pull with Him.
Isaiah 54:17 no weapon forged against you will prevail, and you will refute every tongue that accuses you. This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD, and this is their vindication from me," declares the LORD.
Psalm 32:8 I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my loving eye on you.
Isaiah 58:11 The LORD will guide you always; he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and will strengthen your frame. You will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring whose waters never fail.