Many times we are the best at giving what we rarely get…and what we deeply and sometimes desperately desire.  

The things we deeply desire tend to tell us a great deal about the relationships that are a part of our lives.  These relationships communicate the powerfully unspoken language of our hearts.  This language is a spiritual song that plays constantly, filling the atmosphere, even when we are unaware.  This is why I believe God’s word says to “guard your heart.”  

Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life” (Proverbs 4:23, New Living Translation).

We have to be careful because our lives do not stop speaking, even when we are not talking.  

What song is your heart singing?

Is it singing loneliness, abuse, prayer, worship, God, love, Christ, hurt, pain, frustration, anger, joy, peace, faithfulness, honesty……the list goes on.  

Take a little time to listen, care, and allow yourself to be vulnerable so that you can hear what your heart is saying to you and others.  

It is amazing how we are afraid to let go of the relationships, voices, things, experiences, or situations that keep us plagued and bound.  Sometimes we can find an unhealthy ease in the dead areas of our lives.  We keep going back to these lifeless places trying to resuscitate what does not exist; killing ourselves by using our God-given breath to breathe into these dead things.  

A relationship is not singular, and it does not involve isolation.  We cannot grow alone.  There is a difference between isolation and being alone; and if you are in a relationship with dead things and people then you are isolated. There is no breath or life flowing that keeps you nurtured and growing strong.  I think we hold so tightly to the dead because we are afraid of the realization that we are not in control and we are fearful of being alone.  So then we try to control everything we can, not giving room to allow ourselves to be vulnerable enough to be guided, comforted, led, and directed by God.  I have learned more and more with time, that it takes an enormous amount of strength to truly trust God; knowing how to follow makes you a much better leader.

We also need to know that we are not in this race by ourselves.  We are not alone, though we would like to think that we are.  During my prayer time with God, I mentioned how I sometimes I am alone in my struggles and God told me, “The problem is that you believe that you are alone and you are not, I am always with you.”
“God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble” (Psalm 46:1, English Standard Version).


In our times of trouble, it is difficult to really allow ourselves to trust that someone will and truly understands how to take care of us.  We forget that trusting God does not take perfection or us having all the answers; God has the answers.  He is all knowing and He is always there.

If I say, “Surely the darkness shall cover me, and the light about me be night, even the darkness is not dark to you; the night is bright as the day, for darkness is as light with you” (Psalm 139:11-12, English Standard Version)

 As you go deeper and get closer to God, the answers will not be easy but they we will come when needed.

Why not take a chance and trust Him in this moment right now?  

What do you have to lose?



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About the Author :

Francine Ott is truly thankful to have a relationship with God and is seeking Him daily for guidance and any opportunities to walk closer with Him in truth and love. Francine is a choreographer/dancer, teacher, and soon to be counselor who has a heart to see God's transforming power, renew, restore, and heal the minds, souls, and bodies of people's lives.