There Is Nothing Negative about Being Single
I am a single woman. I have been single for seven years. I think being single is a beautiful gift. It is the time you have to reflect on yourself.
We single ladies receive negativity from time to time. Never let anyone make you feel bad about being single.
1 Corinthians 7:7 says, “For I wish that all men were even as I myself. But each one has his own gift from God, one in this manner and another in that.”
In 1 Corinthians 7:7 Paul is stating that being single is a gift given from God. I always say embrace life. Embrace being single. Alone does not mean lonely. We are never alone, because we have God. Do not get mixed up in the worldly form of complete. Let me tell you, marriage does not make you complete. You are complete in God alone. When the time is right, you will meet Mr. Right. Until then, enjoy what God has to offer. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths.” I have let God direct my paths; He has taken me places I never imagined.
I read the Serenity Prayer daily, it has helped me, and I believe it can help you.
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
I was not always single. I was in a relationship with my high school sweetheart. My first heartbreak. I loved him deeply, it hurt deeply. We have all gone through heartbreak. Looking back on that time in my life, I realize it happened for a reason. I know some people in my life think I should have started dating by now. I do not agree. We go through certain situations because Jesus is calling us closer to him. I thank God for everyone He aligned to help me through that heartbreak. I would not be where I am today, if it was not for that time in my life.
When we walk with Christ, He transforms our lives for the better. As Israel Houghton song “Moving Forward” states: “You make all things new, I will follow you forward,” and that is what I did. I could have looked at what was going wrong in my life, but instead I choose to look at what was going right. Philippians 4:13 says, "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." Always remember dwelling on the past helps no one, but moving forward with Jesus helps everyone! Singleness is a gift from God! It was my gift, and I thank Him every day for it. I have come a long way. The one thing I cherish the most about being single for seven years is my spiritual growth. I am focused on God. He is number one!
"Not that I have already attained, or am already perfected; but I press on, that I may lay hold of that for which Christ Jesus has also laid hold of me. Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of upward call of God in Christ Jesus." -Philippians 3:12-14
Embrace all of life!